I had a similar experience, when my mom had a stroke, the doctor sent her to a nursing home to recover. The first day we took her, the nurses were attentive and kind. Then when we went to visit her the 2nd day, they didn’t even bother to see my mom. My mom told us that they didn’t do much for her and she wanted to go home. By the end of the week we took her home and had never sent her back to a nursing home. I’ve took my to the ER so many times that I think I see many type of nurses.I get what you mean. When my mom had her stroke, she was hospitalized and then afterwards sent to a skilled nursing facility temporarily bc she couldn't get up to walk around. I wanted to bring her home but it was too hard for me to help her get in and out of bed. She stayed at that place for about 3 weeks and I went to visit her everyday. I felt so bad for her bc it was such a horrible experience. On her first day there, they left the safety bedside bar thing down and my mom fell out her bed. They would leave her in wet diapers and she would get rashes. We would press our button for help and they would take forever to get there. She couldn't take showers everyday. They said they have to rotate people for taking showers. It's like every 3 days before they would give her a shower. Then the nurses that was there didn't even know what the heck they were doing. My mom was on thick water liquid after she had her stroke but the nurse that came in was trying to give her regular water until I questioned her. They were supposed to help my mom with physical therapy but they weren't doing shit. They only came and looked at my mom and said oh she looks too tired, we'll come back later. Day by day passes and they still didn't try to help her start on physical therapy. So I kept pushing them to try something with her. I said at least try to see if she could sit up on bed. My mom said when they finally said they were going to start the physical therapy, they would take her to the physical therapy room and chit chat in a corner or go in their offices and just leave her in her wheelchair. It really is sad. Even with me visiting everyday, they still don't treat my mom right. I can't imagine for the people that don't have families visiting them how bad they are being treated. I really would rather die peacefully than be put in a care home too. I felt so bad for my mom. After I saw that she was able to move a little, I took her out of that place and brought her home to take care of her myself. I had to quit my job that I have worked at for the last 19 yrs to take care of her but I'd rather have this opportunity to take care of my mom than have a job and leave her in a miserable place like that.
I take care of both my parents. I’m grateful my dad is able to help with my mom when I’m at work. I also have siblings but only my sister and brother in-law can help when I ask them to. I’m blessed to have them or I would go crazy.