Jaia_loves_Yadech said:Ok I am not trying to tell you guys about my boyfriend and I but we have been dating for 3 years now. Yesterday he asked me will I marry him? Should I marry him when I am not done with college yet or should I finish college first?
We talked about college he said I can continue college when I marry him but I don't want to leave my parents yet.Falada said:
LOL It's your choice. But I think that finishing college first will be good. You guys will get more advantage, if you finish college first. But ask yourself.
"Am I ready to Marry?"
And if you do, go for it. But if you want to finish college first,, you can tell him. And hope he'll understand you.
LOL Hope this help.
For myself I think the same to finish college first but for my parents and his parents they talked together and agreed that it was up to him and I. My BF thinks that I can be with his family and study the same time. If I don't marry him now then in a couple months his family is moving to California so we will be separated. Personally,I don't want him to leave me but not want to marry in the middle of college***huajaikaungtur said:It's really up to you. Just ask yourself if you're willing to marry him now yet think about the future.
Personally, I'd wait to finish college first. Just like Falada said, you guys will get more advantage
Plus, the marriage life will interfere a lot with the college life so it'll be difficult. Again, it's up to you ^^
Jaia_loves_Yadech said:We talked about college he said I can continue college when I marry him but I don't want to leave my parents yet.
Thank you for helping me out you guys. I only have one more year to earn my degree. And as you said it will make it harder to take courses ESP when you have kids and a family to take care of but my parents and there parents are doing a hmong religion thing right now talking about engaging us first and then about marriage later.roselovesice said:Honestly, if you are unsure if you're ready to get married or if you question yourself such a question, you're probably not ready to get married yet.
Marriage life can be a hinder to your college life. It depends of course. It's not all the time. It's just better to be more stable financially before settling down.
If you're almost done with College, it's better to wait. He should also respect your decision as well such as wanting to finish college first.
In the end, it is your choice. Do what you think is best for you and your future.
Great answer!aikoden said:Am I ready to marry? Only you will actually know the answer to that.
From my perspective, if you're still questioning yourself.. or is in doubt.. it may be a sign that you are not yet ready to get married. Again, that's just from my perspective. [LOL, I scrolled up on Rose's post and saw this too.. how funny ]
But anyways, I think that finishing your education may be a wiser choice before you actually start settling down. Why? Well, because you never know what will happen once you're actually married. You may have kids, duties, work, responsibilities etc to take care of and attend to and not have time to finish or focus on your education. If you're able to multitask though.. it might not be a problem.
Overall though, It's really your choice and decision regarding if you want to get married just yet or not. I just want to tell you that there's no need to rush into marriage. If it happens, then it happens. If so, I'll say my early congrats to you and your boyfriend on behalf of AsianFuse here.