laos girls and ME - bad combo

I've chatted with Pangy and I wanted sarnies opinion on this matter... so I was somewhat seeing my friend who I thought I was sorta dating but we are supposely just friends in his eyes... His little spill he gives me is that having friends who are woman all over the states and world would give him a place to stay and people to hang out when he visits... Uhhh... I guess... Anywaise, he and I were so against Pangy's boyfriend going to Laos to meet this girl his dad wants him to marry. You could probly find the thread somewhere here... Anywaise, last night I was at my friend's house working on my assignment on his laptop. So I went to save the assignment on my usb key but when I clicked on the save button it opened up his documents and i noticed a folder (if you have windows 7 the folder shows little thumbnails on the folder) with a laos girl I saw in the pictures Pangy's boyfriend family brought back. At first, I didnt want to snoop around on his laptop because I have all the access to everything and anything I want from him; from his checking accounts to credit cards and driving his car... I get the whole deal package but one thing I realize I dont get from his is his honesty. After saving my assignment I had to check out that folder he named "moments to remember" because I was curious to why the laos girl picture was in the folder. Yes, very bad of me, but I had to... So I opened it and he had a collection of photos of her and other little things... I glanced over the pictures and noticed a few naked pictures of the girl... The first thing that hit me was... I didnt think Laos girls where as bad as the girls here sending sexting... I was like WHOA... My anger grew and I was really upset. When he came over to check up on me he noticed that my attitude changed and he questioned me. I didnt tell him I saw his pictures, I asked if he was interested and was talking to any Laos girls and he replied NO... So, what do you think I should think? I never thought this would also fall on me when I was hoping Pangy and her boyfriend were in so much trouble... I told Pangy I wanted to talk to her boyfriend because I am going to beat the heck out of that man and demand to know why he got my friend also into Laos girls... I noticed I havent seen him around lately as well because he probly knows I will beat him down with a fish... Gawd, I am so angry and Pangy said that its not her boyfriends fault and guys will be guys... Who am I suppose to blame? myself?
Ok, I have to admit, I really dont have anything against Laos girls, but when it comes down to a person I care for, me and Laos girls are not a good combination. I guess I can say I am JEALOUS but i would never send naked pictures of myself to anyone... The pictures of the Laos girl that pangy's family have of her in various picture shot she looked very ordinary and a simpleton but the ones I saw on my friend's laptop was totally something else... Am I missing something here?
 

YM_gurl

sarNie Oldmaid
wow. well i'm not sure what to say here but i guess that's the lao girl's business. however i find it disturbing. sending naked pictures, sick. i guess she is going to blind him with her body lol that's what men likes. on the other hand, you should have not went through his folder lol
 

Raindrops

sarNie Hatchling
I have all the access to everything and anything I want from him; from his checking accounts to credit cards and driving his car... I get the whole deal package but one thing I realize I dont get from his is his honesty.

You have access to all that important information about him and u two are just friends? Dang, I want a friend like that as well...LOL. I had many good guy friends in college, but I would have never given them access to my checking account/credit card, maybe the car every once in a while, but never the other two. My hubby never got any of that information while we were dating until after we got married. Anyways, you should have respected his privacy and not gone through his stuff because it is rude to do so, especially as he seems to consider you more of a friend than a gf. I wouldn't be placing the blame of him looking at nakie picture of some girl who wants to try and sell their body to come to the U.S on anyone at all. You can't go around beating people up because you are jealous of him. It's her personal business what ever she does and it's his personal business if he wants to associate with that type of girl, because if he has some nakie pictures of her, odds are other guys will as well. If you're really upset and uncomfortable with what you saw, then you should just confront him and talk to him about what you did and what you saw. He'll probably be a bit angry with you for invading his privacy, but at least you can get the issue off your chest.
 

nancyvang

sarNie Adult
Hmong Lao girls and me = no no, as well. I just don't know if it's the affect after the war or what it is that cause Hmong people (Hmong girls) over there to be the way they are, to live of a life like this, being desperate, being someone's mistress and not ashamed of exploiting themselves. Sometimes I wonder if they have a grudge on their own kind of people. They probably think Hmong Americans live a life of so call "luxury" and had forgotten about them and when they do go to them, it's just to show off it to their face that we had freedom and money, that's why they find a need to ruin our lives.

About the computer issue. These days no one has privacy anymore, even the government get into our business, so I don't think it's wrong for Yingerbug to stumble into this folder and with curiosity opened it, who knows someone else might had saw it before her.You know that people will be using it once in awhile, keeping those files in the system instead of a cd/usb/external hard drive is an invitation for people to see.

And don't even go as far as saying, guys will be guys, in an affair it takes three to tangle. Whether or not it's a big issue or small issue, it's partially the other girls fault as well.
 
Okae, I confessed to my friend I peeped into his folder and he was pretty upset. He yelled at him and said he was going me the silent treatment until I learn my lesson. I told him I really didnt want to but I saw her picture and I just had to... Well, he isnt talking to me at the moment... I mean its wrong of me to invade his privacy life like that but he was totally against people talking to laos-hmong girls and now he's doing it. I asked him why he did what he did and he said she was cute, very light skinned, and model like body... He liked how she was very cute and etc... I was like okae, so we parted...
BTW, it was a figure of speech about beating up Pangy's man, I would never do that because he's like my best friend. Nancyvang post gave me a little releif because i mean he knows I like him and all and yet he does what he does. I don't know anymore... I really don't like the Laos girls because I have a few sister in laws who are from Laos and they dont love my side of the family at all... That is my real reason to why I dislike them but other then taht this is the next reason to why I dont like them...
 

nancyvang

sarNie Adult
"She was cute, very light skinned, and model like body..." Face it dude you fell into temptation and became a hypocrite at your own words, admit it like a man, instead of shutting yourself like a sissy. Yingerbug es, don't even give a damn about him giving you the silent treatment. Cas es niam ua cuag li nws niam zoo zoo li (he's acting like he's innocent).

I never thought this would happen so close to home, before I just heard rumors around it (Hmong Lao/Hmong Thai girls). But now that I've seen it happen to people close to me. It seem like these things are becoming more common.
 

vanggirlie

sarNie Egg
there are laos girls like girls here where they sexting and send nude pics. if you are angry at those laos girls doing that then be angry at the girls who do it here too. like any human being there are those that if they like a guy they gonna do that with the guy and those that they know where the money comes they gonna do that and these people are all over the world.

also yea the guys and girls in laos got hot bodies... well most of them. altho that doesn't necessarily mean they are pretty or beautiful.

altho i think you have a right to your own opinion on laos girls i think that you should try not to judge all of them on the few that you know.
 
I totally understand that it is wrong to judge others because of issues ive seen in the past and etc... Anywaise, me and laos girls will never be the same because were just not a good combo no matter what. I will not judge those who marry into one unless they are my family because I have seen a great deal of the sh*t that has gone down in the past and I speak what's on my mind. Those others who have come to the USA and still in Laos, they can do whatever they want to get attention and etc... As long as I am not part of the drama then I can careless, honestly...
Anywaise me and my friend are no more because I give up! I aint fighting over a stoopid guy who cant even stand up to himself... Moved back home where life is good and peaceful - wid my parents... He's contacted several times after my cousin who he talks to constantly told him I moved back home. Left several messages telling me how stupid i was for acting the way I did over a laos girl. Simply put, it was not over a laos girl. well, part of it was and the other half was because we been friends for so dang long and he hasnt even asked me out yet we act like were a couple. I mailed all his credit cards and sent him a letter about my situation. I am happy where I am, and its nice to be home after 6 years. I can do better, I know I can... Welps, that's the update... haha...
 

rukpongalex

sarNie Adult
wow, i would love to have access to his everything so i can screw him up, haha just kidding. i wouldn't want to have access to his everything unless he's my husband. guys like him is so contradicting. he doesn't even follow his own advice, why would he give advice and not follow it, stupid guy. anyways, guys like that aren't worth good/honest girl's trust and love. you can do way better than him.
 

kulyia

RUK
i guess theyre not embarrassed. Im really good friends with a cambodian guy and me and my girls went over to his house for a kick back. He showed us HMONG PORN!!!!! I was like wth! It was in Thailand/Laos over there somewhere because you can tell right away by the streets and the building and idk u can just tell by looking at the girl. ahh no comment -.-!
 

triANGgo

lekie_lucious
I totally understand that it is wrong to judge others because of issues ive seen in the past and etc... Anywaise, me and laos girls will never be the same because were just not a good combo no matter what. I will not judge those who marry into one unless they are my family because I have seen a great deal of the sh*t that has gone down in the past and I speak what's on my mind. Those others who have come to the USA and still in Laos, they can do whatever they want to get attention and etc... As long as I am not part of the drama then I can careless, honestly...
Anywaise me and my friend are no more because I give up! I aint fighting over a stoopid guy who cant even stand up to himself... Moved back home where life is good and peaceful - wid my parents... He's contacted several times after my cousin who he talks to constantly told him I moved back home. Left several messages telling me how stupid i was for acting the way I did over a laos girl. Simply put, it was not over a laos girl. well, part of it was and the other half was because we been friends for so dang long and he hasnt even asked me out yet we act like were a couple. I mailed all his credit cards and sent him a letter about my situation. I am happy where I am, and its nice to be home after 6 years. I can do better, I know I can... Welps, that's the update... haha...
*ouch* hurtful Yingna.... I thought we were friends no?!?! I'm Khon Lao too :(
 

triANGgo

lekie_lucious
I totally understand that it is wrong to judge others because of issues ive seen in the past and etc... Anywaise, me and laos girls will never be the same because were just not a good combo no matter what. I will not judge those who marry into one unless they are my family because I have seen a great deal of the sh*t that has gone down in the past and I speak what's on my mind. Those others who have come to the USA and still in Laos, they can do whatever they want to get attention and etc... As long as I am not part of the drama then I can careless, honestly...
Anywaise me and my friend are no more because I give up! I aint fighting over a stoopid guy who cant even stand up to himself... Moved back home where life is good and peaceful - wid my parents... He's contacted several times after my cousin who he talks to constantly told him I moved back home. Left several messages telling me how stupid i was for acting the way I did over a laos girl. Simply put, it was not over a laos girl. well, part of it was and the other half was because we been friends for so dang long and he hasnt even asked me out yet we act like were a couple. I mailed all his credit cards and sent him a letter about my situation. I am happy where I am, and its nice to be home after 6 years. I can do better, I know I can... Welps, that's the update... haha...
*ouch* hurtful Yingna.... I thought we were friends no?!?! I'm Khon Lao too :(
 
*ouch* hurtful Yingna.... I thought we were friends no?!?! I'm Khon Lao too :(
Hey girl... I don't mean it towards Lao people... Just the hmong girls who live in laos... Sorry, dont mean to offend u... Anyways, its over...
 

pink-lily

sarNie Hatchling
wow... i know it's over n all

but IMO...they are no different than some of us in america. Some people would send half naked pix to their BF or someone they're talking to...believe it or not not just only Hmong Laos girl but other people, anyone u can think of does it....I know i don't n i won't, but some people do...dunno y but that's a question they can only answer.

Also, i've been to laos like twice n i have friends there, both guys n gals...they're just like us in America if u really get to know them. They will tell u things that people in laos would do with or to Hmong American. It's not all that bad if you put urself in their shoes bc a lot of Hmong american are no good to esp those who goes there for all those young girls... whether it's hmong laos guy or gals, hmong america guy or gals...they are all just using eachothers... but there are also somes who goes to travel like for travel only n ends up meeting someone cool there like in dramas lol it's true...y whould they make those kinda dramas if people don't meet each other like that LOL

about sister in law being mean to their in laws... u can't say it's only the Hmong Laos people... no matter where a person is from, if that's the way they are then it's the way they are... there are a lot of cases where the sis in law is not even from laos n they are hating on their in laws n it goes the other ways around too...so u can't really judge the whole by a few u know.

I dunno i'll leave it at that.
 

vanggirlie

sarNie Egg
So y'all were friends with benefits. Why would you allow that if you were, if guys can get it for free or with as little work as possible they would.

Yep I do think you have a right to your own opinion.

Also I do want to say that i think the guys and girls that go there to get the Hmong Lao girls and guys do see how "bad" they are but ignore the bad and are willing to take it still. That's why you see and hear about the bad only. Lol people just need to pick the right "good" person that match you and we would stop hearing about the bad ones. Truthfully generalizing a while group if person based on a few is kind of harsh and ignorant.

Lol that friend seems like a jerk. He is as much part of the cause of your issue here as much as you believe the Hmong Laos girl is. I'm glad you got rid of him.
 
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