foreverlove
sarNie Egg
hello everyone,
i'm 24 years old and have been told numerous time to get a life (not in a bad way, just to get a boyfriend or hurry and get marry before i'm too old and it'll be late for me). some have told me to hurry otherwise i might end up being someone's second wife or get a way older guy as husband. also, my family doesn't want to worry about my situation, not finding someone to spend the rest of my life with, they don't want me to be lonely, have no kids, and ect. to be honest, i do want kids (before my 30th birthday, 6 more years to accomplish if i can) but what can i do, i hardly have time to go out to meet people. some have been encouraging like it's okay to wait until mr. right comes but who knows if mr. right will be the first guy that i date (fyi: i have not date before and this dating thing is kind of scaring me because i wouldn't know what to do). also i don't want to just jump into marrying when i find mr. right because i need to take chances and date (like the hmong saying, one girl must have three boyfriends, or something like that). I am a full time employee and full time student and hardly goes out because of school and work taking much of my time. am i wasting my time not going out there and meeting people? will i meet mr. right if i'm waiting for him to come? what places are good to meet people?
as an independent individual, i want someone who lets me have time to myself, isn't controlling, knows how to have fun even when i'm not there, provides me with a strong embrace (making me feel safe) and many more. 24 years haven't been out without my parents permission or without someone from my family going with me (no time for me to freely escape and enjoy time but work, school, and family obligations). i guess the elders want me to get a life because they don't want to see me single in case there's the time where they won't be with me for long and would like to see me fully settle down. sorry i'm overthinking myself that what i wrote might be confusing or going back and forth but i would really appreciate the advices/suggestions i can get. thanks very much.
i'm 24 years old and have been told numerous time to get a life (not in a bad way, just to get a boyfriend or hurry and get marry before i'm too old and it'll be late for me). some have told me to hurry otherwise i might end up being someone's second wife or get a way older guy as husband. also, my family doesn't want to worry about my situation, not finding someone to spend the rest of my life with, they don't want me to be lonely, have no kids, and ect. to be honest, i do want kids (before my 30th birthday, 6 more years to accomplish if i can) but what can i do, i hardly have time to go out to meet people. some have been encouraging like it's okay to wait until mr. right comes but who knows if mr. right will be the first guy that i date (fyi: i have not date before and this dating thing is kind of scaring me because i wouldn't know what to do). also i don't want to just jump into marrying when i find mr. right because i need to take chances and date (like the hmong saying, one girl must have three boyfriends, or something like that). I am a full time employee and full time student and hardly goes out because of school and work taking much of my time. am i wasting my time not going out there and meeting people? will i meet mr. right if i'm waiting for him to come? what places are good to meet people?
as an independent individual, i want someone who lets me have time to myself, isn't controlling, knows how to have fun even when i'm not there, provides me with a strong embrace (making me feel safe) and many more. 24 years haven't been out without my parents permission or without someone from my family going with me (no time for me to freely escape and enjoy time but work, school, and family obligations). i guess the elders want me to get a life because they don't want to see me single in case there's the time where they won't be with me for long and would like to see me fully settle down. sorry i'm overthinking myself that what i wrote might be confusing or going back and forth but i would really appreciate the advices/suggestions i can get. thanks very much.