LOVE works in mysterious ways....
i think of it that we are not in thailand or laos anymore...we can't find love like our parents did...some were force to get married, some just did not know what love was and just tried to work it out til today...i am sure if they had to do it all over again, majority of them would not be with the one they are today...
that way i see it is that hmong men have sometimes more than one wife because they are never satisfied...
if you love him now, but you do not see him and you together for the rest of you lives, may i ask why are you still with him?
if you feel that way, maybe it's time to tell him and move on or else you are just giving him the wrong impressions..maybe he might be wating for you and if you don't see him and you forever, maybe you guys should see other people....
for many, sometimes if they start to see others, they realized that the person they broke off with first was their soulmate, others see it as another way where they should see other people
when you are still young, my advice is to date as much as you can so you get to know the many different guys out there, because let me tell you when you think you know someone well, you do not until you get married, then you are like umm you are not the one i dated for this many months or years...
when dating as well, love your body and do not give it up so easily to anyone...if you choose to have sex be safe, because in this culture if you are not you will more than likely get stuck with him forever or if not, then you will have a reputation because people in this culture has big mouths....your news will travel quickly then the blink of an eye.....
my parents are very very very traditional and strict, but they are always telling me about marrying these immature and tradtional guys, i just choose to ignor them....i know that when it is the right one though, i will need him to get my parents permission as it is respectful that way and it will show that he respects my parents...
the one you love is not one that your friends or parents have to like or love, but you because you have to spend the rest of you life with him and if not, do not forget you are from a culture that will not let divorce happen easily as they will come over and try to make sure you guys work things out, it will have to be either you on your deathbed or he on his deathbed that they will let you guys divorce and if you do divorce, it is always the women with the bad reputation and you get this name "divorce wife" while the guys just goes back to being single and moving on with his wife....
at times i do not disagree with this culture, but it is one that i am born with so i make the best of it by not listening too much into and trying to live life according to my instincts and some, not all traditional beliefs because your parents or friends are not always going to be there to help you out...
so whatever choice or decision you make, i wish you luck and hope for the best.....
hope my advice help!
