I have best friend who've I've known since the 5th grade, so we've been friends for about 14 years now.
But our views on pretty much nearly everything is totally opposite and generally I'm fine with it. I rarely meet anyone I share all of my views with, my boyfriend doesn't even share the same religious belief as myself (of course I don't have one so I guess that helps lol). It works because I've always been able to find some common ground with most people and our differences have never been so bad that we couldn't overlook it and focus on the friendship. Or we've learned to stay away from certain topics or be considerate of each other by not stepping on each other's toes when it comes to politics and religion.
With that being said, I finally snapped a few hours ago because I finally got tired of the way she was coming off or talking about beliefs that were different from her own. She says she's hurt that I coud say that she was 'mocking' of being offensive to me. In fact you threw the words back at me and said she was OFFENDED that I found what she said offending. Uh...yeah, okay, once again she's turning it around and making it about HER and making herself out to be the victim.
For years I've listened quietly while she complain about being and outcast just because she's a Conservative Christian, as if she's in the minority or something. I've listened quietly while she was being condescending about her husband's mom's religious practices (she's Buddhist).
If it were anyone else I would've said something a long time ago but because she's my best friend I was being courteous and considerate but she's NEVER once done the same for me as a friend. Well, that's not true. When we were younger she was, but when she moved away to Mississippi her perspective of the world competely changed. She seems so intolerable of anything different from herself, at least that's the impression I get when I talk to her. It's as if she can't take anyone else's views seriously if they're not in line with her own.
So yeah, after a heated discussion I finally snapped. I've had it with her attitude.
I'm sorry she has an illness (nothing that could kill her, it's something else) but I'm tired of her always playing the victim. She's only the victim because she chooses to see herself that way. The world is not out to get her just because she's a Christian, HELLO she's NOT the only Christian in America. No one's against her because of her conservative view, there are tons of conservatives out there.
Anway, yeah. Sorry just needed to rant.
I think our friendship has finally come to an end, I can't find any reason for us to be friends anymore. She doesn't seem interested in what I say when I'm talking, the conversation always goes back to her and things that goes on in her life. If she can relate she changes the subject abrutly to something she likes.
That's not a friend.
But our views on pretty much nearly everything is totally opposite and generally I'm fine with it. I rarely meet anyone I share all of my views with, my boyfriend doesn't even share the same religious belief as myself (of course I don't have one so I guess that helps lol). It works because I've always been able to find some common ground with most people and our differences have never been so bad that we couldn't overlook it and focus on the friendship. Or we've learned to stay away from certain topics or be considerate of each other by not stepping on each other's toes when it comes to politics and religion.
With that being said, I finally snapped a few hours ago because I finally got tired of the way she was coming off or talking about beliefs that were different from her own. She says she's hurt that I coud say that she was 'mocking' of being offensive to me. In fact you threw the words back at me and said she was OFFENDED that I found what she said offending. Uh...yeah, okay, once again she's turning it around and making it about HER and making herself out to be the victim.
For years I've listened quietly while she complain about being and outcast just because she's a Conservative Christian, as if she's in the minority or something. I've listened quietly while she was being condescending about her husband's mom's religious practices (she's Buddhist).
If it were anyone else I would've said something a long time ago but because she's my best friend I was being courteous and considerate but she's NEVER once done the same for me as a friend. Well, that's not true. When we were younger she was, but when she moved away to Mississippi her perspective of the world competely changed. She seems so intolerable of anything different from herself, at least that's the impression I get when I talk to her. It's as if she can't take anyone else's views seriously if they're not in line with her own.
So yeah, after a heated discussion I finally snapped. I've had it with her attitude.
I'm sorry she has an illness (nothing that could kill her, it's something else) but I'm tired of her always playing the victim. She's only the victim because she chooses to see herself that way. The world is not out to get her just because she's a Christian, HELLO she's NOT the only Christian in America. No one's against her because of her conservative view, there are tons of conservatives out there.
Anway, yeah. Sorry just needed to rant.
I think our friendship has finally come to an end, I can't find any reason for us to be friends anymore. She doesn't seem interested in what I say when I'm talking, the conversation always goes back to her and things that goes on in her life. If she can relate she changes the subject abrutly to something she likes.
That's not a friend.
