AFN (Asianfuse network)

wow i don't know what to say you sure have a very strong will , but can i ask you a question if you ever had to choose between your family and your dream and life achievement who would you had choose

i chose my family . i been brainwashed to believe family is everything, Asian parent does that , they use religion , culture tradition & value to make us hesitate in our decision . I will succumb to their wishes but I have a rebellious heart , i will maintain my dream 'privately' .

It took patience because down the road I had fail many time but once you achieve your goal --trust me , your sister will have the confidence to state her own mind & have the achievement to back up , either w/ money , education , property , career , ect .

Going against my parent is like "an egg smashing against a rock' I can't break them but I will stain them , by letting them aware that i'm capable of supporting myself financially with a career choice they underestimated me . And i did it . I make more money than they ever in a lifetime . I

have patience , I waited til it my time , I had obedience toward my parent , I don't argue w/them and I listen w/o debating b/c I know I can't win . The key to achieving all those are "laughter" , i never take thing serious , i find way to laugh about my problem ,

being carefree , I do have my bad time , my dream shatter , failure in life situation but I never dwell on my short coming , be positive about it as a lesson learn & find way to achieve other goal .Tell ur sister to cheer up , there more worst problem out there ,

that sooo inspiring really wow bravo you are so smart and strong to be able to reach that without having to crush your parent , and no you are not washed brain family is everything for me too i can't go against my mum , that's why i'm stuck i don't know if i will ever reach what i dream of but sure thing i never gave up inside kudos to you

and PS: i was talking about my niece my sister is trying to change her , to make her do things that she don't want to do , my niece have a personality that her mother doesn't want to accept her she call her a dreamer that with that weak personality she can't leave within this hard world i don't know but i feel she is killing her in a way with all this words

, so i really hope parent can understand and accept their children more

the reason i don't argue with them because I know action speak louder than words , my achievement speak its' volume , it's does my battle , I was able to maintain a health relationship w/ my parent even though most ppl in my situation will go mad because my parent are difficult , they constantly criticism, belittle , prejudice & culture restriction our decision , completely control us .

Luckily , my personality was able to endure their negativity , yes , i was sad & stress about their confinement but i learn to take their serious lecture humorously , cheer myself up w/ laughter , hang out w/ friend , jokes about my problem & entertainment myself w/ lakorn , movies , manga , ect activity & presade my goal privately .

How is your niece a dreamer ? How her personality ? She can't possible be worst than me ? I'm probably more a dreamer than her ! Im a cougar chasing after young boys , write dirty fanfiction , flirt with guy & lesbo at the shop LOL..and more.

well i don't think my niece is that dreamer loool that's is out of question , rreally wow such a powerful personality you have that a real will right there *thumbsup*

not powerful or anything lolll, ppl deal w/ their problem differently , I'm more cunning lol . I love my parent even though they are troublesome & difficult to deal with but now they are lot better than before b/c they see how much I accomplish , they are force to accept my decision b/c it benefit the family -- not just myself

, I always put my family first and make sure nobody is left out in the business i created for a living, if i make money , all of us will live comfortably . Like this month , i profit $500 more , I take my parent out to eat some place expensive , stock the frigd. w/ fishes they love , baby brother broke his phone , so i went out to buy him iphone 6 .

Parent want attention and to be pamper without them having to tell us . So, i spoiler my parent w/ gift , call them everyday just to say nonsense stuff , those little thing make them happy , I know , therefore i was able to get away w/ most thing HAHA.

I don't hold grudges when my parent said something negativity , i won't show them how much im hurt , i alway maintain my humours way & never take it to the heart . I let them believe they won . That i'm still obedience. behind close door is another story , what they dislike , i do it privately .

If your mom is shooting your dream down one by one and you are unable to persuade your dream b/c of some circumstance , I advise you to at least better yourself in other field that's within your reach , though it's not your first choice but it will buy you time to shape your confidence & try again later . That's what i did . It took years but it worth it .

WWWWWWWWWWWWWWOOOOOOOOWWWW really woow you words touched me very much you have come a long path in your life congratulation for reaching that point your parent should be very proud and you you should be very proud of that i clap you

, and yes where i live i have a hard circumstance and it's not about my mom is more about i don't have big choices i need to do something else than what i want to do but exactly as you said i'm trying to build my confidence to reach a point i want in my life, must thank you for this inspirational words