I don't considered divorcing an abusive and cheating husband a "hot mess". We should all leave her alone and give her time to healed and deal with her personal life in her own ways.
We as "an outsider" should be just that, "an outsider" and not get involved or tangle with anyone personal lives.
No matter what's going on with her life in the past or present she is female/women like many of us here; therefore we should at least shows some empathy or compassion to her or each others with moral support or word of encouragement and not kicking one another while another person's' down on their luck.
hew: *First and only post* PEACE OUT! :hide: