Iya
sarNie Adult
Okay, so I've been stumped with this questions for about four years now and I feel like I still don't know an answer to it. Here's the story:
I met a guy friend the first day of my freshman year and had instantly clicked. We felt as if we have known each other forever and get along better than me and most my other friends. In the first year, he had asked me out, but I refused on the basis that I don't want to date in my high school year. Plus, he is younger and I'm not ready for a relatioinship or a commitment. therefore, we stayed friend. however we became closer, because he would come to me about his relationship with the others girls he's dating.
I didn't see him much of my sophmore year or my junior, but we never loose our closeness. we hung out only at school, and that's only if we cross each other in the hallway or ended up pairing up in an event at school. but even then, he had asked me out again after he ended a relationship with another girl. Of course, i say no, but we're still okay with it.
in my junior year, my friends tried to convince me to go out with him. since i've been considering the prospect of dating and having a relationship, i've decided to agree, though i wasn't sure where my feeligns for him stands now. i've become closer to him and everything, but i don't think i love him that way. so i told my friends that i will go out with him if he ask me again. of course, i made them promise to never tell him about it. they agreed. luckily that year, he didn't ask me again.
this year, our senior year together, he found out about the promise, after it was off, and was upset that i didn't tell him, but he was okay with it since he has a steady college girlfriend now.
the thing is thought, ever since he found out, he's been acting all closer to me. he would put his arms around me when we're walking in the hall or hold my hand (interlock style). at first i thought nothing of it, because he has always been an affectionate kind of guy, always giving big bear hugs and all that, but now it's getting a little too affectionate (especially when he's dating someone right now). hey, he even asked me to be his date for the prom, but i say no, telling him that he has a girlfriend (and should bring her) and that i want to meet her.
sometime, i want to tell him that were just best friend (he brought it up since i've been his constant friend for fours year and we talk about alot of things that we don't with other people. and i've told him things i don't even tell my godsister, who is like a best friend to me) and should not be so affectiionate, espcially with the holding hands and all that, but then i don't want to lose good relationship.
truth to be told, there are times that i've considered taht if he broke off with his gf, i might go out with him, but i always scratch it out. i don't want to be a third person, yet i've always give him advice when he has problem with her.
i also feel that he has feelign for me all this time because he had gotten more affectionate towards me this year and never hestitate to put his arms around me or hold my hands out in public. when that happened, i become lost and let him do it. only to scold myself afterward for letting it go too far.
I've been thinking of putting a distance in the relationship, but it's hard since we've been close friend and it would seem like i'm abandoning him.
anyone know what i should go? he IS my best friend. right now, i'm trying not to encourage him, but it's hard to be when he's a very affectionate person and someone who i share alot of things with. plus, i've never met his gf, but I know that i would never try to break the relationship. from what he told me about her, i really like her. she seem to be a caring, lovely, and affectinate girl.
he told me that he'll be bringing her to the prom and he'll introduce us there.
should i let things go as they should? or should I put more distance between us? give me your opinion.
I met a guy friend the first day of my freshman year and had instantly clicked. We felt as if we have known each other forever and get along better than me and most my other friends. In the first year, he had asked me out, but I refused on the basis that I don't want to date in my high school year. Plus, he is younger and I'm not ready for a relatioinship or a commitment. therefore, we stayed friend. however we became closer, because he would come to me about his relationship with the others girls he's dating.
I didn't see him much of my sophmore year or my junior, but we never loose our closeness. we hung out only at school, and that's only if we cross each other in the hallway or ended up pairing up in an event at school. but even then, he had asked me out again after he ended a relationship with another girl. Of course, i say no, but we're still okay with it.
in my junior year, my friends tried to convince me to go out with him. since i've been considering the prospect of dating and having a relationship, i've decided to agree, though i wasn't sure where my feeligns for him stands now. i've become closer to him and everything, but i don't think i love him that way. so i told my friends that i will go out with him if he ask me again. of course, i made them promise to never tell him about it. they agreed. luckily that year, he didn't ask me again.
this year, our senior year together, he found out about the promise, after it was off, and was upset that i didn't tell him, but he was okay with it since he has a steady college girlfriend now.
the thing is thought, ever since he found out, he's been acting all closer to me. he would put his arms around me when we're walking in the hall or hold my hand (interlock style). at first i thought nothing of it, because he has always been an affectionate kind of guy, always giving big bear hugs and all that, but now it's getting a little too affectionate (especially when he's dating someone right now). hey, he even asked me to be his date for the prom, but i say no, telling him that he has a girlfriend (and should bring her) and that i want to meet her.
sometime, i want to tell him that were just best friend (he brought it up since i've been his constant friend for fours year and we talk about alot of things that we don't with other people. and i've told him things i don't even tell my godsister, who is like a best friend to me) and should not be so affectiionate, espcially with the holding hands and all that, but then i don't want to lose good relationship.
truth to be told, there are times that i've considered taht if he broke off with his gf, i might go out with him, but i always scratch it out. i don't want to be a third person, yet i've always give him advice when he has problem with her.
i also feel that he has feelign for me all this time because he had gotten more affectionate towards me this year and never hestitate to put his arms around me or hold my hands out in public. when that happened, i become lost and let him do it. only to scold myself afterward for letting it go too far.
I've been thinking of putting a distance in the relationship, but it's hard since we've been close friend and it would seem like i'm abandoning him.
anyone know what i should go? he IS my best friend. right now, i'm trying not to encourage him, but it's hard to be when he's a very affectionate person and someone who i share alot of things with. plus, i've never met his gf, but I know that i would never try to break the relationship. from what he told me about her, i really like her. she seem to be a caring, lovely, and affectinate girl.
he told me that he'll be bringing her to the prom and he'll introduce us there.
should i let things go as they should? or should I put more distance between us? give me your opinion.
