Hey there buddies... I feel really guilty right now and I jus want to know if its really bad of me. Last night i went over with my roommate to meet up with her friends. anywaise she got this friend whose been thru rough and tough times and i really like him. He's been married once and divorce (I care not) and he's the oldest with his father in the hospital and i feel sad for him. When i see him i see my own father. He's got this mask he puts on but for me i can see that he is so sad and watnot that is why i am attracted to him. I want to be the one to comfort him and tell him things will be okay. But with this mask he puts on its all happy but looking into his eyes so sad. I love my father so much i alwaise thought to myself someday if i find someone like my father i would love them forever. :unsure: Anywaise last night i went over and i saw him making me feel ever so good, but he's didnt really paid much attention to me much. So after a bit i was mad then i saw his granny. I was like heck man if i hang out with the granny he might noticed. He did and all but my bad intention got me feeling so awful. Anywaise when i hanged out with the granny it made me miss my own. I sat with her, and realized that after a bit my intention was non-existed. I jus wanted to be next to this old lady i wish i can call granny and watch hmong movies with her. I jus felt really attached and she talking to me reminded me of old times. There was a language barrier between the two of us but after spending time with her i wish i didnt have that feeling i had. Man is it mean of me to use the granny like that. I still want to see the granny but i feel bad right now. He dont know that i used his granny but actually using her made me realize how much i miss having one around me. :unsure:
Bad Intention?
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KhoOnxNouxWanxJai
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hmmm i dont think its bad at all ... i mean u felt bad for the guy and wanted to help but let me tell you don't let pity be the chooser of your feelings.. pity can easily be mistaken for feelings in the romantic way... like u may feel sorry for him but think u like him...
some people try to deny if they use the granny so they wont feel bad, so think deep down inside... do you still want to hang around the granny? if so, theres absolutely nothin wrong. the thing is some people get introduced by friends, when they asked them too, its not using, its just helping, building a chance =)
you've nothing to worry about, you dont seem like a bad person so far so dont ever think otherwise =)
you've nothing to worry about, you dont seem like a bad person so far so dont ever think otherwise =)
Gosh I tried to make connection with him but got nothing. I am now embarrassed to see him now. When i call to jus say hi he wont pick up, even text. But when my roommie does he picks and text her. I guess Ima jus gonna ignore him overall... I guess it was pity after all... As for the granny, i really do still want to hang out with her, but its his granny and i cant face him anymore how can i see the granny. 
AznGirlTha
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i dunno... but if u want to hang out with the granny then i think u should go ahead. yeah at first u used her but like u know u were wrong and if hanging out with her makes u feel good then just do it again. (yeah, please if something go wrong dont blame me!) but thats what ill do.
KhoOnxNouxWanxJai
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^^agrees u should most def hang with his granny if you would like to