family who think they're hi-so

[te_1_n_only_me]

Some family who is so so so far blood related that we could consider them not family at all, but is close related to one of my aunt on her dad side. My aunt is related to me on her mom side. Her mom is my grandma sister. Ok, they came over to my aunt house and I neva new that they even existed, until they out of the blue showed up at my aunt house. We were like, lets just go meet them, until my aunt came to me and told me to go buy some food, because one of the girl doesn't noe how to eat cambodian food. I was like, she is Cambodian and doesn't noe how to eat Cambodian food, why is she being difficult. (she just recently came to America) My grandma was worst cuz she said it in front of her face. My grandma is hardcore. Well we brought her the food, but had to go do some other errand, so we just drop off the food. One of the guy was outside and asked my brother was he the delivery boy and my brother being who he is just said yes. The guy then said that he didn't noe that the delivery boy here drives nice car. Couple hours passed and my bro and me finally go over to meet the family. Let me tell you, by the way they act, talk, etc., you can tell that if they weren't related to my aunt by any mean and saw us walking down the street, they wouldn't even glance our way. They are moving and they are deciding on two place and I hope they don't decide to move here.

 

[KhoOnxNouxWanxJai]

Lol; I have family members like that lol; but the funny thing is that they are dirt poor; ^__^ they talk and act as though they have money and stuff and brag about this and that. my family and I just kind of smile and say "good for you." LOL. We don't care about materialistic things and sure as hell don't like when people brag about it. It's annoying and degrading to themselves. We don't care as long as we have a roof over our head and a car to drive ourselves where we have to go. "Life is what you make it. Live by the sparks and not by the materials" Is what I normally say. What is so good about being hi-so? I asked my family members "my cousins that think they are all that" and they answered, "well we can buy what we want and people respect us more." I would have to say. I am able to buy what I want now a days.. I don't consider myself rich or hi-so; Because we really don't even want anything expensive. Respect? We get respect from people if we deserve it. Respect shouldn't be determined by the amount of money and place in society you have, but should be determined by the person and character you house. So as for your family; No Offense but I am part Cambodian too and most of my Cambodian relatives are like that for some reason; My Lao ones tend to be more close knit and caring for one another; My Thai relatives they can go both ways lol they are either snobby or Close knit; so it really depends on the culture and traditional rules they live by

 

[Jane]

i don't think i have any family members that act like this, but where i live, there are a lot of ppl that think they are hi-so. please!!! act like we don't know where they came from. For example, there's this lady in our community and she think she is so hi-so and so do her children. The thing is my mom knows of her past, she used to be a servant back home, don't get me wrong, i'm not puttting her down, but she acts like she comes from royalty, just be normal, don't try to be something you're not b/c we all know where you came from.

another one, I was in Thailand in 2004 and my uncle (thai) and his wife (laotian) went to visit thailand with us and they live in France. Well, a Laotian couple went with them to thailand and let me tell you, the lady acted like she was miss hi-so just because she came from france. The thing is she even looked down on us, giving us looks of digust. I guess she was around some of the hi-so ppl in thailand that she wanted them think so was one too and the worse part is that she even acted like that toward my aunt and uncle who went with her. They were telling us that they don't know why she was acting like that b/c they all know where she came from too, she was dirt poor when she was living in laos and just b/c she lives in france doesn't mean that she had to act like miss hi-so and think low of everyone else.

Trust me, there are a lot of these kind of ppl out there in the world acting snooty and hi-so when they're just regular people like the rest of us.

 

[te_1_n_only_me]

the only reason I was like what, was because my family on both of my mom and dad side is very hugh. A lot of uncles and aunts, cousin, etc. I meet probably like 80% of them. Believe me when I say hugh family, i mean hugh family. My great grandma on my dad side had like 18 kids. My dad have 8 brothers. Every single one of them except this one was down to earth, like we know where we came from no big deal, family is family. Like sleeping on the floor and all that. A bond was always formed, like we have always been friends even though we just meet. That is how we are here like eight families with 3-4 kids each; we're all down to earth and we all hang out together, don't get me wrong, we like nice things too and we go out of our way to get them too (working, nothin illegal). It was just that I seen people that act hi-so but neva someone related to me, it made it seem like they were using us. I do have the pleasure to say that they are not really my family. I can't just forget them and go on my way, because knowing my mom and dad they'll say you shouldn't hate family, no matter how bad you really want to run them over with a car (i would neva do that even if I want to).

 

[Phew]

I find it quite funny because I know some people who are sellers in Australia here but when they go to Thailand or somewhere else they act very high-so and look down on those sellers like themselves lol.
But I also know some people who is very loaded, rich to the point of being hi-so but when they go to somewhere they dress as if they are normal people and getting their nails printed on the beach and wearing thongs lol if I never saw their house I would of thought they were just normal working people but nope, their house was just a surprise to us all LOL.

 

[none3]

To Jane and Tina >>>>snicker bars to you both!!!


Just a food for thought....

Thankfully we (rational and smart thinking individuals) recognize the truth of the matter of this dilemma. It is easy to be snooty if you're around that type of life style and you flash that type of money. Sadly to day, social class discrimination happens in all kind of racial background within the Asian, Western and Middle East Community etc.

Even in the African American community, if your more light skinned and not as dark as your fellow sisters or brothers you're considered upper class and educated as oppose to a darker skinned tone person, you might very well be considered a savage or from the ghetto with no education. It's true...I did a research paper on it. It happens all the time in the professional business field like movies industry, music videos and college clubs.

As the saying goes, "it's a dog eat dog world". People who feel they're superior than everyone will continue to trample others who are beneath them because opportunity allows them--happens all the time. The question is: Are you a conformist or a leader who will not stand to see others being taken advantage off and will actually step out of their comfort zone to defend others regardless of their race and social class and despite the consequences that will follow?

 

[YM_gurl]

same here, i have family members who think they are hi-so too.

mann, dont u just hate it? lols..

people like that gets on my nerves.. i just ignore them as much as i can, even if they
are family members. hahaa

 

[Liberty]

lol Yeah, I think everyone is related to someone like that.
I have an aunt, I don't know if she thinks she's better or uppidy, but ever since she remarried (3rd by the way) and married this white guy, we don't see her anymore.
She doesn't even live that far from my grandparents and I doubt they see her that often. She doesn't even bother coming over for holiday dinners like Thanksgiving or Christmas, which is not cool when my other uncles and aunts fly in from out of state to do so.

Now, my family is very Americanize overall but we still remember our heritage, so I don't know what her deal is.
When my middle aunt passed away (her younger sister) she couldn't even deal with staying with the rest of the family for more than one night.
Instead she flew back and forth from Austin to Arlington. Ticks me off. <_<

 

[judyp]

oh yeah, im sure everyone has at least one family member like that; my uncle and cousin from my dad's side are like that. its just so mind-boggling because we all grew up together in the "hood" as we would say. lols. we grew up with very little money, but we got by. we were all really close-knit and all especially when we lived around the corner from each other but one day they moved. and after that move, they all of a sudden were "hi-so". they told everyone they bought a house and blah blah blah when actually, they were renting. and my cousin who i just laugh about now, was dating a football player who became pro. oh man. my uncle would brag on and on about how he had a rich son-in-law. im like dude, they were only dating, plus they're not dating anymore so shut your pie-hole. sorry, i love my uncle and all, but it gets pretty annoying.
i just like to think that it all just depends on the people because you can't generalize. some people just have that mentality. :wacko:

 

[ChenrukNote]

Gosh talking about high-so, I met my cousins today and yes its the same ones where their mother thinks they are gods/goddesses born on earth or something lol. Man, it was annoying. The only cute thing was my little cousin, I guess he's like my nephew since his dad is my look pee.

I absolutely hate it when someone is snobby and wants to thrust their snobbishness at everyone else.