dude!! sseriously, if he's married and he still does that, he must be an asshole!
only assholes do that! no one in their right mind would do such a thing.
maybe a couple hands helping out but not hanging over all the time because that's insane.
he is seriously neglecting u and leave u out of the picture? wth? and wtf is wrong with the female friend? is she in her right mind?
she must be so stupid!!! may YOU should confront her and tell her how u feel!! Talk to ur husband and make him aware that u are not feeling right because of what
he is doing!!!! if he doesn't stop, it's up to u! if u cant do anything about it, it's up to ur parents, hmong elders, and etc...well, that also depends on how "americanized" or "traditional" u are too!!!!
but yea, don't give up! don't!!! talk to him first to see if he can understand u!!! =D
good luck!