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[KhoOnxNouxWanxJai]

The thing about guns is best to carry one with multiple safety's so it doesn't accidentally fire. The guns I carry you would need to pull back a certain way and unlock a certain spot in order to be able to fire lol. I wouldn't trust carrying a gun without safety's 

 

[Maya_Fantasy]

I would love to learn how to fire it, just a matter of knowing how to use a gun, but I still will not be carrying it.  lolz
I don't think I can trust myself to protect it, like I said I am too paranoid and has wild imagination, I'll be crazy out of my mind just thinking of seeing one let alone carrying on my person at all time. :weee:

 

[KhoOnxNouxWanxJai]

I used to be that way so I understand, but I was almost mugged a few times and a once or twice was like right in the middle of a gas station in broad daylight. I grew up kinda tomboyish anyway so it wasn't really that hard of a decision for me after much thought lol. 
 
The scariest experience for me was I was pumping gas and some random guy drove up and parked beside my car, he grabbed me by the arm and tried to pull me into his car so I kicked him and stabbed him in one eye with my keys before screaming for help. He quickly jumped into his car and drove off. 
 
Maybe I'm just violent -.-, I even have hair clips that if you prop out will turn into a small blade lol. 
 
I think self defense is really important, but it doesn't always necessarily have to be guns. There are many ways to defend yourselves it's just quick thinking sometimes. 

 

[Maya_Fantasy]

Oh wow your situation is totally scary, I'm surprised you don't walk around with bodyguard by now. :bhehe:  I would freak out if that was me. Glad you are alright and nothing bad happened.
 
I never put myself in a situation like that, so I feel somewhat safe, therefore is hard for me to think of protection to the extreme. After I had my first stalker experience I moved away from that area, so I don't have any need to go beyond the normal awareness, beside take a little more precaution now.
 
But yes CC you should go for the class, it doesn't hurt to learn and lets hope you will never come into a situation that you have to use your new learned skills.
 
Ladies, be careful out there, too many craziness in this World.

 

[byebye]

I have been around lots of Cops and I am used to seeing guns but still that doesn't mean I like it. My husband can show me how to use a gun till his face turn blue I still would not understand it. It's like one of those things, when you are not interested you put a barrier between his voice and your head...and all you hear is just sound lol.
 
When I grew up in California I grew up in the ghetto...one time I walked to get lunch out of campus in high school this guy drove by and start shooting. I was standing right in front of him but he shot up in the air. I think he got like 3-4 bullets out. Everyone was scared and I stood there looking at him finding it interesting lol. Stupid things you do when you were young that could have gotten you killed.

 

[Maya_Fantasy]

I think when we're in shocked our mind work slower and we do crazy thing without thinking of safety first. 
 
You ladies has scary story. I guess I grow up pretty well guarded and away from all those high crimes stuffs. Now I'm proud to say I am a 100% chicken if I were in your shoes. :coverlaf:

 

[byebye]

The crazy thing is, my friend was pulling me to leave and I was like...where are we going? She was scared half to death while I just kept on looking at the guy with the gun. When I think back to my younger days, I should have been dead a long time ago.
 
At the apartment complex I grew up in, we have people come knocking on our doors to ask for money all the time...and they are usually white men. One time, it was so hot...he had sweats running down his forehead. He got down on his knees (which they always do) and asked for money. I was home alone (I was about 12). I feel so bad for him because it was hot...but I told him I have no money. He asked if he can have a drink of water then...since it was hot and he was thirsty.
 
And of course, I invited him in. He closed the door behind him so it was me and the stranger in the apartment. I feel a bit nervous because if he wanted to harm me, no one was around to help. I can feel his eyes on me, and looking around the place. We were poor so he has nothing to steal lol. I gave him a glass of water...and smiled nervously. Trying to be nice cause sometime it helps He drank the water so fast...thank me and left.
 
I didn't realized I had made a mistake by inviting a stranger in but I was a kid growing up in the 80s and never thought bad of the world back then.  

 

[Maya_Fantasy]

:shock2: WOW you are crazy and very innocent, it's scary to picture what could have happened, being home alone and all. But thanks god it was in the 80's people are not as crazy as today lol.

 

[byebye]

I think people are just crazy no matter what the generation is. I was just so young and see things through a young girl's eyes. Where innocent win out the evil. 
 
Talking about evil people. I went to school where a shooting happens. It was so scary. We heard loud noises like firecracker. My teacher went to look out the small window on the door and her voice broke. She was like, a teacher is down...he got shot. OMG!!! We all got scared then. I was in the 5th grade when it happened. Then one of the kid was crying...saying he doesn't want to die. It was just a sad thing all around. Too many evil people out there but it's a good thing there are just as many good people to counter them.

 

[Ncmeowmeow35]

Hope you guys don't mind that I join in. Wow, reading about you guys and weapon doesn't make me feel like a gun crazed person now. I too carry a concealed weapon and i sleep with it under my pillow. I also have 4 other pm9s hidden in varies of places around my house. Not that i live in an awfully dangerous place but just a bad experience from 2 years ago. My friend's condo was broken into while i was staying there and i woke up to a guy having his hand over my mouth and a knife to my throat asking me where my friend was. scared the living crap out of me and at that time i was ill too so literally i could had died from a heart attack or something. Luckily nothing happened. Next day my ex signed me up for defense class but because of my illness and the side effect of my meds, my arms often gets weak so the classes were useless. My brother then decided it was time i learn how to shoot. Even with weak muscles, i can at least shoot. They said more often, bad guys are more afraid that you have a gun then wondering if your aim is right on. So when i go somewhere by myself at night, i carry my guns with me. It's sad but hey you have to learn how to protect yourself.

As for the marriage talk, i envy you guys and get you on the understanding and compromising. I've been through 2 failed marriages and it is tough.

 

[byebye]

Wow...so glad nothing happen to you. We need more people to join. I think this thread is hijacked by me and Sarn the most lol.
 
When I touch a gun it just scares me, something about the cold metal that just makes it the more awful. But don't get me wrong...If I have to defend my kids I will regardless. Their lives is more important than me being scared. I can't imagine having a guy did that to me...I would have been forever scared. It is sad, that  nowadays we have to sleep with weapons. I know the 80s are funky but gosh those times were actually the best.
 
Marriage is a lot of work. I was having a hard time with my husband not too long ago. I then realized that I have to be happy with myself first in order to be happy with him. I need to learn and grow as a person and work on myself before I can do all those with someone else. I think, a marriage takes a lifetime of work. Seriously, that is like a 24/7 job that never ends until it ends

 

[Maya_Fantasy]

After reading all you ladies story, my growing up life sure is blessed. I live in a great neighbor and the only problem we had at school were with kids throwing lunch at each other.
 
So sorry to hear what you've gone thru Ncmeowmeow35 , glad that crazy person didn't hurt you.  As for marriages, sometime is just not meant to be I'm sorry too.  But thing might work out for the better, you never know, you might meet someone better or your true soulmate in the near future. :highfive: :beer: :kiss2:

 

[byebye]

I just want me one of those Lords in the historical romance book and I will be set. How dreamy is it to have a tall, handsome that talks in a language(accent) I can listen to all day lol. Especially, those arrogant, temper, hotheaded hero. They always make the greatest husband when they settle down.

 

[sarN]

to much work for marriage!! I just stick to dating until someone knock me up & then elope & shot gun wedding & then pray for the best lol

 

[Ncmeowmeow35]

I thought i had it all. Fell in love with my best friend, had a fairy tale wedding, had a great job, and living the life. I mean what can go wrong when you marry your best friend who knows everything about you. Well it was a blessing and a tragedy. We didn't have it all because we were living the career life, living apart that is. Because we weren't together all the time, things were not told or explained. Words travel with the wind and misunderstanding happens that lead to mistakes made. In the end, I was stubborn, he was stubborn and we end it. That was our first mistake, our second was that we thought since we can't savage the marriage, we could savage the friendship. We kept in touch, act as if we are bestfriends again. I got with a really good guy and he got jealous, vice versa. The jealousy got mistaken for love that never went away. i broke up with my guy, he broke up with his and we got back together. This second time you would think we learned from our past mistakes right? Nope. It was worse because at least the first time, there were love. This time it was just tolerance. My illness made it 10x worse because we had to deal with that instead of our true feelings. I felt guilty cus he was by my side, he felt guilty cus I was ill. We acted like we love each other but deep down we only care for each other as friends. Finally one day, we just had it, we found that we weren't smiling anymore. Before we man up and went our separate way again he told me that i should had just said something. That's why to me, words means a lot.

Maya_fantasy, i grew up in a good neighbor too and my friend's condo was upscaled but he got into with the wrong people.

Byebye, i was scared of gun at first too. Like I didn't want to be anywhere near it but after that incident, you have to do what you have to do.

 

[byebye]

That is one thing they say when you get together with your best friend, the friendship if the relationship ends will never be the same. The thing with my husband he doesn't believe in being my friend because he doesn't want to treat me as a friend. Dude, got it so backward (at least to me). And that is one issue I can't get him to see...a successful marriage has to have some sort of friendship in it.
 
I used to believe that words mean a lot but it doesn't any more. So many times, words are just a hallow sound because actions to me speaks louder than words. My husband is good at saying, this and that then he goes and do something completely different. Words can sound beautiful and persuade a heart that is indecisive but actions cemented everything.
 
Now when he tells me, I just tell him I will wait and see. One would have thought almost 16 years I would learn that lesson early lol. It took me almost that entire time to learn that crucial point. I honestly, don't know why marriage is so hard. You fall in love with the love of your life and married...it should be a walk in a daisy park...but dang most are like walking on heated coals to just get to the broken glasses lol

 

[Ncmeowmeow35]

Well there's a saying in Thai: we are born of different wombs, grew up in different homes and environment so it will take work to make it work. Lol who am i to say that.

My ex is the opposite, he's the type that will do something for you even though to him it meant nothing. His words are gold and his actions are just silver.

Sarn! Don't get knocked up! Lol

 

[sarN]

@mewo, o ' man girl, come here let me hug you  :heart:  :heart: *kiss* , i work in a tattoo shop , so i fall in love 10 x a day w/ half naked man lol but those are not serious love, i had never fall in love truely but i broke alot of hearts  b/c i can never return their feeling . when love is not there nothing will work , just like a car , no gas no drive , i have try to love but when your heart is not in it, no smile or laugter can fool yourself to believe this is happiness , arrange marriage suck, glad i got out of it lol

 

[Ncmeowmeow35]

You were in an arranged marriage?!

@mewo, o ' man girl, come here let me hug you  :heart:  :heart: *kiss* , i work in a tattoo shop , so i fall in love 10 x a day w/ half naked man lol but those are not serious love, i had never fall in love truely but i broke alot of hearts  b/c i can never return their feeling . when love is not there nothing will work , just like a car , no gas no drive , i have try to love but when your heart is not in it, no smile or laugter can fool yourself to believe this is happiness , arrange marriage suck, glad i got out of it lol

 

[sarN]

haha...im not a player but i have 4 proposal since i was 16 , i was enage to be marry at one point but broke it off, leave my parent to face the elder & took off to FL. If you go back like 6 page there more man lolllll . i have a crazy stalker , an ex fiancee & a farmer i left crying oversea & bunch of boys toys on the side ! really, im a good girl!