Mother gossiping

[rukmos]

So I woke up this morning to a phone call from my dad. My dad is out of town for some business. Apparently my F*** mother had gossiped to my dad saying that I'm not going to school and that I'm not going to work. I'm always out playing and being a slut around town. I was like WTF is she talking about and why is she gossiping lies to my dad. I've been going to school and passing with A's and B's and I go to work and bring home a paycheck of five hundred every two weeks. I must be amazing then if I'm not going to school or work and still come up with amazing results.


So I confronted her right after the phone call. I wasn't even being mad or yelling at her. In a very calm tone of voice, I asked her that why didn't she come talk to me first if she had problems with me and why was she lying to my dad about me? I've always been close to my dad so making me look bad to my dad just pisses me off especially when it's not even TRUTH!

Her response was that I never listen to a word she says and she's never spoken more than a dozen words to me since my dad left town. I told her that
her response was a piss-poor one and that she should have a better response waiting next time she gossips and lies to my dad.

I'm just so pissed off at her right now and I need to vent that anger before I do something that I'll regret later or maybe not. God, I hate liars and my mother is a liar a poor one at that. I just want to understand why she lied, but that will probably remain a mystery.

 

[nkaujhmooblauj]

that's messed up
and.. she's your biological mother?
that's even more messed up

 

[dajdeev]

you know, every hmong mom are like that but anyway we still love them

 

[Mae]

Hmong mothers always have tough love for their daughters.. sad, but we still live a patriarchal culture...

 

[kulyia]

icant relate. But youd want to have a mother to daughter conversation with her. you know. To prevent future problems too.

 

[YM_gurl]

dammnn* thats sad.

but hey wat can you do, its ur mom. all u can do is talk to your mom and
tell her not to lied... good luck.

 

[Mya]

Yeah, sometimes I feel like I can never be good enough for my parents either. Makes me feel sad and disappointed but I try to not let what they think get to me. Parents shouldn't be so tough on their children. It begins to make us doubt our own capabilities.

 

[s0rrow_chick]

you know, every hmong mom are like that but anyway we still love them

you know that is totally not true.

parents usually tell the truth about their kids to relatives...
i have some distant relative who love to glam up
their so called "perfect kids" stories...like at gatherings or jingle bells
its pretty funny because its like dude i kno
your kids they are my cousins and i kno how lazy they are
thats why they ain't hea helping kill chicken and doing other
stuff....

but yea iono its pretty messed up how your mama sed such stuff to your pops
maybe she was offended by something? iono... or it could be she's envious of
your relationship wid your dad and wants to have a closer relationship with you

 

[ddawbb]

Maybe your mom is pissed off... or she has some expectations that she hasn't made known yet and just started to blabber.. give her some time maybe she'll start to cool down.

 

[kulyia]

you know that is totally not true.

parents usually tell the truth about their kids to relatives...
i have some distant relative who love to glam up
their so called "perfect kids" stories...like at gatherings or jingle bells
its pretty funny because its like dude i kno
your kids they are my cousins and i kno how lazy they are
thats why they ain't hea helping kill chicken and doing other
stuff....

but yea iono its pretty messed up how your mama sed such stuff to your pops
maybe she was offended by something? iono... or it could be she's envious of
your relationship wid your dad and wants to have a closer relationship with you

yes i admit too. Not all. my parents are split. But they talk every once in a while. My dad looks out for me and my siblings as if he is still here.my mother and i are pretty close, but she dont lie and make up crap about me. only whenn she does is when i dont listen to her and she snitch to tell me older sisters who are married, and add some EXTRA tiny details. lol But i still love her.=]

 

[stephanie]

omg! i tolly agree! my mom hella exaggerates! ugh! it's like "wtf? tht was SO not what happened!"

 

[genn04]

at least u brought to our attention about this type of situation that almost every family have had. Just asked yourself, if you know you're not lying to yourself other than you think your mother made up that lie, than you should just ignore it. There is no such things as confronting your mother. Take confronting your mother is like a crime that you have just committed. Mother are always cautious of their own daughters sometimes they do that because they want the best out of you and they often lied because they worry and they feel you might of doing it in purpose. My best suggestion to you is, although there may be a lot of problems or lies between your mom and yourself, talk carefully through it or leave it behind often as much as you can. Taking your anger at her won't solve anything but one thing for sure that will happen now and the future is those words that you used against hers will stay in her for the rest of her live and can never set her free. Words that they tell us may not stay with us as we grow up but as for them our words through them are like bruises and nails that pin onto them that will never heal. Not a great idea to do that next time.

I, myself and my mom always come across many arguments, however i must respect her lectures, her words, and her opinions even i want my way. Say anything you want to say but remember one thing, never go over your mom. No one should ever expect to much from a mother that is so not right too...i mean at time you do want that but don't go too far. You are who they look up too in the future. I don't know about you guys...but anything that comes out of my mouth when i am angry or being too harsh at my parents, afterwords i regret saying it but then when i come to realize it is like a knot where i can't untied it back . Our lives runs like a clock when it tick then that second can never be recover because every second counts our future. What happens before that we won't able to heal it. I learned how to control myself now often....why i must? because i believe ones quote, "WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND." When i come to think of it, believe me or not it haunts me for real i've seen it and heard it. As for me, I respect my mother more than my dad. Not that I don't love my dad as much as my mom, but it is the reason because mother exist for their daughter to look up too, therefore, no matter how ugly, how dumb, how horrible, how psycho, how mental, or how much i hate my mother, I must love her after and everyday on. No other mother in this earth can replace a mother like yours....so always love her back even from the worst day you had with her.

 

[sofarsogood]

So I woke up this morning to a phone call from my dad. My dad is out of town for some business. Apparently my F*** mother had gossiped to my dad saying that I'm not going to school and that I'm not going to work. I'm always out playing and being a slut around town. I was like WTF is she talking about and why is she gossiping lies to my dad. I've been going to school and passing with A's and B's and I go to work and bring home a paycheck of five hundred every two weeks. I must be amazing then if I'm not going to school or work and still come up with amazing results.


So I confronted her right after the phone call. I wasn't even being mad or yelling at her. In a very calm tone of voice, I asked her that why didn't she come talk to me first if she had problems with me and why was she lying to my dad about me? I've always been close to my dad so making me look bad to my dad just pisses me off especially when it's not even TRUTH!

Her response was that I never listen to a word she says and she's never spoken more than a dozen words to me since my dad left town. I told her that
her response was a piss-poor one and that she should have a better response waiting next time she gossips and lies to my dad.

I'm just so pissed off at her right now and I need to vent that anger before I do something that I'll regret later or maybe not. God, I hate liars and my mother is a liar a poor one at that. I just want to understand why she lied, but that will probably remain a mystery.

Sorry about you and your mom . I hope and wish you and your mom will come to a better understand and get along well.................

My mom and I get along so well and I am so greatful for that.

 

[yaksoh]

from the way u explained it
it looked like she wasn't ur bio mother
but even if she is or not
from my point of view i would just ignore her
better than having to fake up and vent anger all the time
f*** respect
s.t. genetics just isn't worth it to love and care
whether u regret it or not

 

[mainhiathao]

if she's ur step-mother...kick her....if she's u bio-mother, dunt care about it...

 

[dorkymc]

wow... all i can say is that you are pretty messed up too...
i mean for calling your mom the "F" word publically...

girl, start by giving your mom some respect... looks like she is trying to get your attention...
maybe it is the only way she can reach you... duno... duno all the dirty secret behind you guys relationship...

yeah... if she is your bio mom... no matter what... show some respect...

 

[jimmylee12]

wow calling ur mom name is just sad if mine mom gossiping behide mine back it just mean that she want me too bond with her more that why she saying bad thing about me but hey do what u think is right not like am in ur shoe and know what really happen

 

[AsianFemale]

So I woke up this morning to a phone call from my dad. My dad is out of town for some business. Apparently my F*** mother had gossiped to my dad saying that I'm not going to school and that I'm not going to work. I'm always out playing and being a slut around town. I was like WTF is she talking about and why is she gossiping lies to my dad. I've been going to school and passing with A's and B's and I go to work and bring home a paycheck of five hundred every two weeks. I must be amazing then if I'm not going to school or work and still come up with amazing results.


So I confronted her right after the phone call. I wasn't even being mad or yelling at her. In a very calm tone of voice, I asked her that why didn't she come talk to me first if she had problems with me and why was she lying to my dad about me? I've always been close to my dad so making me look bad to my dad just pisses me off especially when it's not even TRUTH!

Her response was that I never listen to a word she says and she's never spoken more than a dozen words to me since my dad left town. I told her that
her response was a piss-poor one and that she should have a better response waiting next time she gossips and lies to my dad.

I'm just so pissed off at her right now and I need to vent that anger before I do something that I'll regret later or maybe not. God, I hate liars and my mother is a liar a poor one at that. I just want to understand why she lied, but that will probably remain a mystery.

Its okay dear. She loves you thats all. My mom was like that but not that mean(hehe) till i got married moved away and got older and im starting to be like my mom (hahahahahaha) so now i understand. Trust me, later in life you will probably be like why am i so mean and talking nonsence to my mom like that..hahaha

 

[ceda_lee]

Girl...if you can't handle that, then you wouldn't want to meet my mother. LOL!

 

[minankumo]

mother-in-law r the worst. they say sh!t to other people bout u r not true. i get mad n angry at her nut can't really do nuthin b/c i still liven with them. my husband is a woman and i'm the man in the ralationship n it sucks.