would you do this?

[donna]

how do you feel about arranged marriages? for me, two words, hell no! that is so outdated. i wouldn't want to be forced into a relationship. there has to be feelings involved to make the relationship last!

the reason i brought up this subject is cuz i know of a few ppl who had to marry someone that their parents picked out for them. to make matters worse, that person is in laos! you've never met them so how can that relationship last! plus, not to talk bad about my peeps, most ppl in laos are after nothing but your loot! there are a few ppl who lost a lot of money bringing that person here from laos and after getting their green card, they just ditch them! but there are some who fall in love which is good.

some ppl get forced into this situation cuz they don't want to hurt their parents feelings. i understand that part but the parents got to understand that this person is gonna be with you the rest of your life! why torture each other if the relationship doesn't last.

but yeah, how do you feel about this?

 

[Reagan]

it depends, some people still do arrange marriages, and they are not caught up in the world of " marry the one you love" they have not been to that level yet, so basically arrange marriage is as good as it gets hehe, get what I'm saying? Everybody sees things differently, we cannot judge others based on what we want, and think about it, you probly want to fall in love and marry that one you love, doesnt mean everybody else do that, I know that sounds bad but its true, in a way, but of course I'd want to marry whom I love as well!!!!, also, some do arrange marriages because they have not found someone yet and are getting to a certain age, keep in mind some relationships work out, and arrange marriages end if it doesnt work, its just, back then it wasnt bf or gf and break up, it was straight MARRIAGE then divorce =)

 

[Keomany]

if its their tradtion then sure..but im not a fan of it much even tho i take my tradition serious..there just something i think that is not right and thats one

 

[arissa]

hellz..I would never do it...even if my parents forced me to...cause I dont want to live through hell for the rest of my life....I have seen this happened to a a cousin of mine. SHe was married to a guy that she have never met before..because her parents thought he was the greatest dude of all...But HELLZ they thought wrong....he was a freakin devil in disguise....he beat her up..every ffreakin day...(SAH DIT))..for almost 2 freakin whole year that she lived with him...She got out..of the relationship...SHe left without telling her parents....SHe is now living with teh one she love..and they are very happy...Her parents regret the whole thing....But I cannot say that things will always turn out this way...sometimes...arrange marriage can have a happy ending...But IT will never be for me...because I was raised to voice my opinion.so therefore..I dun think I can ever do that...

 

[~Sandy~]

Well it's different for everyone. I would not have an arrange marriage, but i also know my parents will never arrange one for me. Arrange marriage is NOT a tradition...THANK GOD! lol My parents were arranged marriage, had 3 kids together, and lived and loved one another til death did them part. I'm sure there were times one another thought of someone they loved previous each other, but they seemed happy. And they were happy with the family they have together. So it all depends.

There are others out there who have arrange marriage, but just to help the spouse come over to the US and then divorce when all papers are final, as an agreement.

I do feel bad for ones who has been in arranged marriage and it did not work out at all. Like your cousin, arissa. I myself has been in an abusive marriage. But it wasn't arranged. Basically im saying is; anyone can still live through hell for the rest of their lives until they can get out of it; it doesn't necessarily mean arrange marriage is hell.

 

[KhoOnxNouxWanxJai]

oOo arranged marriage I would never do it .. my parents never actually try to force me to marry anyone but they always talk about how their "friends" son is good like this and good like that hoping I would be intrested my other relatives like my aunt and my grandma on the other hand do try to get involve and I always just not come home or stay at school untill they go home when I know they are up to something.. and they have tried to ultimately put their foot down on me, but they aren't my parents so they have no right over me .. and basically although I'm 18 and still love under my parents rules they are still very strict with me .. overall my dad doesn't like me having contact with any guy romantically he is very strict -__O so I doubt my dad will be like that with me ... and I know my cousin had to do an arrange marriage and she was happy with it, but my parents recently shared with me why they aren't like grandma and aunt ... because my uncle which was in an arranged marriage.. after having kids and being married for years she caused them so much pain because of haiving affairs and messing with other womans husband.. my uncle never loved her but he is together for the kids .. and right now she is bringing one of her boyfriends around the house and my uncle can't say anything because his wife hits him! thats a first a woman abusing a man .. well not a first, but uncommon...

but my other uncle however had a happy ending in his arranged marriage.. so I guess all in all its not a down side, but not an up side... i think the ones that are willing to do it without objections shouldn't have so much problems with it ... but those who object to it and don't want to do it are the ones that are the sad ones..

Before I start writing a book I wanna say lol its your life.. if your cool with arranged marriages then good for yah but if you don' want it then stand up to it!

 

[saonoy03]

hahaha the thought of being arranged to be married sounds exciting however if it really had happen to me i dont think i will go through with it...i know my friend had an arranged marriage and she wasnt happy about it in the beginning because she didnt love the guy but now hmmmm she happy. but i dont know, not everyone is lucky like that. if my parents decide to do that which they will never do cuz they dont like the thought of me getting married yet, i will kick and scream and say no!!! ....even though it does sounds exciting like i said earliar

 

[noungning]

arranged marriages, i've seen many done, and i've seem ppl who came from laos for an arranged marriage and didn't go thru with it. i guess those that are forced into it have to go through so much crap, and same goes for those who have to go thru it...

neither have met so it'd be something all together. the questionis can i go thru with it? the answer is probably no, because i don't think i can live with the person i don't love. and especially loving someone already and having to change my mind and love someone else, that's going to be hard! but i guess it still doesn't stop because there are still old fashion minded people and they believe what they find is what's best for their child.