To sum up the beginning I'm moving to OK in a couple of weeks. I use to live alone in Houston and saw my boyfriend every single day. Then when I moved back home to Austin (my parents begged me too and the economy went to hell, and well I didn't have a job) and my boyfriend moved to San Antonio to live with his mom. Things were still good even though we couldn't see each other every day. He was working and on the right path to the career he wants. We manage to see each other every weekend.
Then he gets a new job in Houston and gets into grad. school there so he moves back to Houston and now we see each other maybe every other weekend. When he starts school I don't know how busy he'll be, either way I'll be Oklahoma. So yeah, been back in Austin six months and haven't had any luck with finding a job so I have to move with my parents. My parents are selling this house so they can move to OK, a smaller town, better job opportunities, quite place to retire later in life and closer to other family members.
The only upside for me about moving to OK is that I'll have a better chance at finding work, at least I hope so, and we might be getting a great dane. Other than that I'm not looking forward to moving. I'm leaving everything and everyone I know behind. I love my family but I'm a grown woman and I don't particularly enjoy spending every day of my life with my family. Love them but that doesn't mean I want to live with them. God, imagine being surrounded by only family members, no friends or significant other to turn to. If you have one of those love dovey, squishy family you wouldn't understand. That's not to say that my family is close, we are, we're just not that kind of close. For the time being though I know I have no other choice and I'll have to suck it up and deal with it. So I've accepted and I'm going to just focus on finding a job, saving money, passing my Thai language test in Oct. so that I can graduate in Dec. then I'll worry about moving back to Texas.
Anyway...about my relationship.
Early tonight my boyfriend called and we got to talking. Usually we don't really talk about anything important but the topic of me moving and our past came up. We've broken up before, years ago. It was only for about four months but we got back together. I really wasn't expecting us to because at the time he moved to Ohio and neither of us knew how long he'd be there. I was willing to work at it but he was being difficult and unsure so I broke it off with him. There's nothing more annoying than indecisiveness in a relationship. I'm not the type to take anyone back but seeing as how we had no real issues before we broke I gave him another shot.
Honestly, I just don't wanna have to go through that mess again. If we break up again it's the last straw. I only give one second chance and I used it on him, there's no more second chances left with me.
Back to what I was saying...We get to talking and I asked him if he'll come visit me in OK and I was expecting it to be an easy answer. Instead I get some half ass answer like he doesn't know if he'll have time when school starts. I told him I don't expect him to come see me every weekend or even once a month just whenever he has time from work and school. I just figured that after FIVE YEARS together he'd be able to find some time in his schedule to visit his girlfriend. I mean, I go see him whenever I can and he's yet to visit me since he moved back to Houston (he was going to last weekend but had to work and wouldn't get here until dark so I went there instead).
Then he tells me something crazy his friend once did. He said that his friend drove across country from Texas to Florida, three days drive, to pick up a girl he's never met. They've been talking online and on the phone for a while but never met in person. Yeah, I think that's crazy but it ticks me off that his friend would do that for a girl he's never met and my boyfriend of five years doesn't know if he can find the time to visit me????!!!
It says a lot about how much he values our relationship and how much he actually cares for me. <_<
Call me crazy but if you really care about someone and really wanted to be with them distance shouldn't be a problem, especially if it's only temporary. (By the way OK and Houston isn't nearly as far as Austin to Florida.) If you really care and really want it to work then you make it work and try until you no longer want to try. I'm not asking for a lot and I know it's going to be hard not seeing each other as often as we're use to but I would think that the alternative (breaking up) would be worse.
I don't do that "break" bullshit either. Taking a "break" to me is a sorry as excuse for staying in a relationship or not wanting to let go. It's a half ass break up that's what it is. You're either together or you're not. Taking a "break" usually means one person in that relationship wants to test out the waters, see other people but doesn't want to let go of their safety net in case they don't find someone else, or that they're worried they might regret the breakup.
Then he gets a new job in Houston and gets into grad. school there so he moves back to Houston and now we see each other maybe every other weekend. When he starts school I don't know how busy he'll be, either way I'll be Oklahoma. So yeah, been back in Austin six months and haven't had any luck with finding a job so I have to move with my parents. My parents are selling this house so they can move to OK, a smaller town, better job opportunities, quite place to retire later in life and closer to other family members.
The only upside for me about moving to OK is that I'll have a better chance at finding work, at least I hope so, and we might be getting a great dane. Other than that I'm not looking forward to moving. I'm leaving everything and everyone I know behind. I love my family but I'm a grown woman and I don't particularly enjoy spending every day of my life with my family. Love them but that doesn't mean I want to live with them. God, imagine being surrounded by only family members, no friends or significant other to turn to. If you have one of those love dovey, squishy family you wouldn't understand. That's not to say that my family is close, we are, we're just not that kind of close. For the time being though I know I have no other choice and I'll have to suck it up and deal with it. So I've accepted and I'm going to just focus on finding a job, saving money, passing my Thai language test in Oct. so that I can graduate in Dec. then I'll worry about moving back to Texas.
Anyway...about my relationship.
Early tonight my boyfriend called and we got to talking. Usually we don't really talk about anything important but the topic of me moving and our past came up. We've broken up before, years ago. It was only for about four months but we got back together. I really wasn't expecting us to because at the time he moved to Ohio and neither of us knew how long he'd be there. I was willing to work at it but he was being difficult and unsure so I broke it off with him. There's nothing more annoying than indecisiveness in a relationship. I'm not the type to take anyone back but seeing as how we had no real issues before we broke I gave him another shot.
Honestly, I just don't wanna have to go through that mess again. If we break up again it's the last straw. I only give one second chance and I used it on him, there's no more second chances left with me.
Back to what I was saying...We get to talking and I asked him if he'll come visit me in OK and I was expecting it to be an easy answer. Instead I get some half ass answer like he doesn't know if he'll have time when school starts. I told him I don't expect him to come see me every weekend or even once a month just whenever he has time from work and school. I just figured that after FIVE YEARS together he'd be able to find some time in his schedule to visit his girlfriend. I mean, I go see him whenever I can and he's yet to visit me since he moved back to Houston (he was going to last weekend but had to work and wouldn't get here until dark so I went there instead).
Then he tells me something crazy his friend once did. He said that his friend drove across country from Texas to Florida, three days drive, to pick up a girl he's never met. They've been talking online and on the phone for a while but never met in person. Yeah, I think that's crazy but it ticks me off that his friend would do that for a girl he's never met and my boyfriend of five years doesn't know if he can find the time to visit me????!!!
It says a lot about how much he values our relationship and how much he actually cares for me. <_<
Call me crazy but if you really care about someone and really wanted to be with them distance shouldn't be a problem, especially if it's only temporary. (By the way OK and Houston isn't nearly as far as Austin to Florida.) If you really care and really want it to work then you make it work and try until you no longer want to try. I'm not asking for a lot and I know it's going to be hard not seeing each other as often as we're use to but I would think that the alternative (breaking up) would be worse.
I don't do that "break" bullshit either. Taking a "break" to me is a sorry as excuse for staying in a relationship or not wanting to let go. It's a half ass break up that's what it is. You're either together or you're not. Taking a "break" usually means one person in that relationship wants to test out the waters, see other people but doesn't want to let go of their safety net in case they don't find someone else, or that they're worried they might regret the breakup.