He's Just Not That Into You

[PeNgUIn*3o3]

Okae I just watched this movie with 3 of my guy friends. Boy did I learn a lot! Now, I think I have to go and measure my love life... I read the book too, over a good 3 month period time; and I must say DAMN I never knew my friends were like that! If you haven't seen it, go rent it and watch it. I just realized what a dumbass I am... Am I the RULE or the EXCEPTION... haha... Its rather interesting when you watch the movie with the GUYS because they actually admit to most of them. lol...

Gigi: I think I've figured it out. Remember when I went out with that notary public and he cheated on me and then Anastasia from upstairs told me about how her boyfriend cheated on her in the beginning then he totally changed and now they're married and crazy in love?
Beth: I thought that guy was a process server.
Gigi: No notary. Anyway my point is, Anastasia is the exception, not the rule. We have to stop listening to these stories because they rule is most guys who cheat on you up front don't really care about you very much.
Janine: Ok.
Gigi: Ok, Ok. Exhibit A. Chad the drummer who lived in a storage space. He only used me for rides and yet I continued to stalk him for most of 1998. Then oh, um, there was Don, that broke up with me every Friday so that he could have his weekends free. I was delusional about that relationship. I used to refer to him as my husband to random people, like my dental hygienist. Anyway, all my friends used to tell me about how things might work out with these dipsticks because they knew someone, who knew someone, who dated a dipstick just like mine. That girl ended up getting married and living happily ever after. That the exception and we're not the exception we're the rule.

 

[noungning]

i think when u are questioning, u are the rule.

rule:
-run away when she likes to make up imaginary things.

 

[KhoOnxNouxWanxJai]

i think when u are questioning, u are the rule.

rule:
-run away when she likes to make up imaginary things.

Ditto, I second that

 

[- noy -]

ok, Im have this cute friend that i always tease that he's gay. He's not but its just that we've been talking and all until we were talking about our personalities. There's this other girl thats sooo in love with him, but he tells me he's not ready in a relationship because he just broke up, and I try to cheer him and her, although i want him for myself. Then we got to this conversation where he's like, you want me to be meann? ill be very coldhearted. Then i said ' i like the way u are already, dont change.' and he replies back " U like me gay, thats it, thats all i know".... and i wrote back, damn right, ur gay.....

But did that mean that he wants me to understand that he's not into me? Plzzz i need help hereeee, because then we talk like normal, but i try to avoid himmm, maybe he got a hint i might like him so he's tryna make me understand that he only want me to like him as a friend...
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updates
Im pretty sure now that he likes me but i dont anymore...I dont know why but everytimes i guy starts to like me,I back out...

 

[raymond_obsessed]

ok, Im have this cute friend that i always tease that he's gay. He's not but its just that we've been talking and all until we were talking about our personalities. There's this other girl thats sooo in love with him, but he tells me he's not ready in a relationship because he just broke up, and I try to cheer him and her, although i want him for myself. Then we got to this conversation where he's like, you want me to be meann? ill be very coldhearted. Then i said ' i like the way u are already, dont change.' and he replies back " U like me gay, thats it, thats all i know".... and i wrote back, damn right, ur gay.....

But did that mean that he wants me to understand that he's not into me? Plzzz i need help hereeee, because then we talk like normal, but i try to avoid himmm, maybe he got a hint i might like him so he's tryna make me understand that he only want me to like him as a friend...

If the guy says he's not ready to be in a relationship, it just means he's not ready to be in one with you, or whoever they're saying it to. I read the book that the movie was made after, and I learned a lot from it, more than the movie. I highly recommend it!!

Because if a guy wants you, he will do everything in his power to get you, no excuses.

I think you need to clarify your conversation, because I don't understand it.

But from the book, I know that if a guy is into you, he WILL let you know...and if you have to ask so many questions, then maybe "he's just not that into you". Not to sound harsh, because that means you can move on and keep yourself available for a guy who IS into you.

As human beings, we deserve the best, we don't deserve to settle for whoever because that's the only people we think we'll get. We have to believe we're great people who deserve another great person who will show us that they're interested instead of having us try to figure it out and drive ourselves crazy.