awww i know where we got all these names calling from...its from our parents... <_<
it started as a nickname.. hmmm reminds me of my 7 yr old niece..
the other day she was really upset..cause shes a pretty big girl for her age..and as far as i can remember she was always like born big boned..she got the genes from both her dad and mother side (im her mother's older sis btw)..
there was actually a lil more to this story than the name calling but it still had something to do with the nickname...so i will share it anyways..
a funny lil nickname..lead to her hurt feelings..we called her ka-map..which is "fat" ...the poor kid was crying..(not cause of me on that day anyways..and after what i witnessed i dont think i will call her that anymore)
she was hungry and was circling the kitchen table looking for munchies...my parents said some stuff to her (dont know what they said cause i didnt hear them..all i heard was the chair falling and my dad got mad and told her to go to the room while she was defending herself saying she didnt knock the chair down intentionally) and i think they said the "fat" word also..so she started ballin..ran to the room and locked herself in there..the sound of her crying made my heart ache so badly, i knocked on the door to try to get her to open it but only to get a "go away & leave me alone" reply...i pleaded for her to open the door but she kept saying the same thing...and after it hurted me deeply when she said.. "nobody cares bout me..nobody loves me...and why should i care bout or love anybody else?" gosh to hear that from a 7 yr and esp from her was shocking...so i had to do something. i got the spare key from one of the drawer in the hallway and unlocked it. right when i open the door she yelled at me to leave her alone again..but then of course i did all i can to comfort her...trying to calm her..and stuff...i told her...dont worry bout what other ppl think bout you..i love you ..i love you no matter how you look ok.. thats all that matter..
she was trying to talk to me between her sob and her hand gestures was trying to show me that it hurt her deeply while pointing to her chest..my poor baby!!!! ..
she finally calmed down after a few comforting word.of course i shed some tears..*sniff saying it to her and ask her to join me for a walk outside to clear our minds and get some fresh air.. 10 mins later she was a happy kid again...cause right when we went outside i sat down on one of the lawn chairs..and we sat down and chit chatted some more..talking bout mosquitoes..and stuff ..yep anything to get her mind off of what had just happen in the house.
k so the moral of this is ..
the names might sound funny to us in the beginning or at times..but it will eventually hurt the person who got stuck with that name.. i hope none of this happen to any of you or anyone you know...
i forgot to mention during the comforting time..i hugged and kissed her countless time...