hi everyone,
I am a married young wife. I want to know those of you that are married about your in-laws and how they treat you and marriage life. Some in-laws are soo mean and etc while others are great with their daughter-in-laws. As for mine, mine are ......my father-in-law is known to be a mean guy that almost everyone don't like and know about. My mother-in-law is known to be nice. You know what you guys, I like my father-in-law and love him more because I see the good side of him. Eventhough he is mean, he has a straight heart and is fair. MY mother-in-law, I really really dislike her. She is the nice one in everyones' eyes but she is the evil one and does not have a straight heart and unfair who doesn't treat her daughter-in-laws right. She can't even do things now that she has alot of health problems, she doesn't even love all her daughter-in-laws who kill theirselves to be at the house every freaken day to cook and clean for her family eventhough they have their own family to take care of. She treats her grandkids from her son soo mean but when it come sto her daughters' kids, she loves them, talk sooo nice to them and give them stuff wile she tells the other grandkids that they are mean and evil.
I hate my life soo much that I cry like almost every day when I think of it. I just want to fly back home. People talk soo much shit and don't even know what the daughter-in-laws are going through. My husband doesn't even try to understand what I am going through or his other sister-in-laws. YOu know how we have to hide our feelings from the family so that the in-laws will not know; this makes my husband think that I am the only one who is mean and not happy while the others are happy. Everyday, I try to tell him about his mother and how she is but he doesn't believe me and would say all these other stuff to back her up. We had soo many fights when I bring up stuff about his family. Since he won't let me go to work and pregnant right now, I been taking care of his parents since I married him; I see how his mother really is. I fell like a slave and not a wife most time. I wake up, cook, clean, stay home all day long watching the house and his parents then clean and cook for the whole family when they come home. This is my everyday life. Some days, so many guests come to visit that I have to kill myself to cook for them eventhough I am pregnant. My mother-in-law would cry to the guestsand say stuff to them and then they would look at me weird and start cooking medicine for her and tell me what to do. Every guests that come to the house would give me medicine to cook for my in-laws and this and that. They all tell me the same thing every time " you stay home so do this and that for your in-laws". I feel like I am losing my mind. When I tell my husband about this and that some people that come to the house don't respect me, talk very rude to me, and think I don't do anything, after they talked to his mom, he thinks and tells me that I am crazy.
My mother-in-law would fake that she can't pick up her spoon or can't eat anything infront of guests but when there's none, she would eat all her food. I get soo mad when she does this because the guests would come up to me and tell me to cook the malt-o-meal and this other wheat soup for her. I feel like crying everytime because I do cook those for her and no one sees it. They just tell me what else to do and etc. I feel like exploding but I can't because these are old people. They act like they were never a daughter-in-law before. I feel like every guest that we had; always pick on me just because I stay home eventhough I don't want to. Even if I work or go to school, I will still have to cook and clean as much anyways and it will drive me crazy. I can not plan anything because almost every weekend, the whole family has to throw a hmong ritual party for the in-laws because they both are in bad health and etc. We did soo many already and its not even helping but the people outside think that we don't so they even does it too.
The saddest part is that my own husband doesn't really help me around the house eventhough I am pregnant. He can't even wash his own plate! He still thinks like the old people. He believes that women have their own roles and guys have their own. He always tell me that I think too much and that I should not think of it and just think of the positive. I tell him that I can't because it seems like everyone expect me to do soo much and I only have two hands and a brain that is shrinking everyday. I did expected marriage life to be hard and etc but not this much. This family has soo many guests that the daugther-in-laws is always cooking and cleaning everyweek. The sad thing about this family is that they expect their daughter-in-laws to do everything while their daughters don't have to do anything and plus they don't know how to do anything. They are soo smart in school and always brag about it and always say others are dumb and stupid but my gosh! can't even use their brain when it comes to house work and cooking. To me, a smart person is a person that knows how to use its hands and legs and brain all together. This family is soo spoil. They all sit and wait until all the daughter-in-laws finish cooking then eat like they are some kind of royal family or something.
God, I wish I can move out but I know that I can't. I tried and look at me; still living with them because the father won't let us move out. I feel like I have to live like this until they are gone. Gosh I hope its soon because I know I will go crazy oneday.
"My husband said that when the outside people start talking shit about you is because someone in the family started it"
Funny because I tell him that its his mom who did it and when someone really do walk up to me or me hearing anything bad about me, I will really say shit to his parents and etc. This is my marriage life. I don't know what you are thinking about me now but I do have some thoughts in my head of what you might say or think but its okay. I never wanted to end up like this but here I am getting everything that I did not want. I realize that in life, what you don't want, god tend to give it to you. Good luck to those of yous that are still not married yet. In-laws can be soo crual.
I am a married young wife. I want to know those of you that are married about your in-laws and how they treat you and marriage life. Some in-laws are soo mean and etc while others are great with their daughter-in-laws. As for mine, mine are ......my father-in-law is known to be a mean guy that almost everyone don't like and know about. My mother-in-law is known to be nice. You know what you guys, I like my father-in-law and love him more because I see the good side of him. Eventhough he is mean, he has a straight heart and is fair. MY mother-in-law, I really really dislike her. She is the nice one in everyones' eyes but she is the evil one and does not have a straight heart and unfair who doesn't treat her daughter-in-laws right. She can't even do things now that she has alot of health problems, she doesn't even love all her daughter-in-laws who kill theirselves to be at the house every freaken day to cook and clean for her family eventhough they have their own family to take care of. She treats her grandkids from her son soo mean but when it come sto her daughters' kids, she loves them, talk sooo nice to them and give them stuff wile she tells the other grandkids that they are mean and evil.
I hate my life soo much that I cry like almost every day when I think of it. I just want to fly back home. People talk soo much shit and don't even know what the daughter-in-laws are going through. My husband doesn't even try to understand what I am going through or his other sister-in-laws. YOu know how we have to hide our feelings from the family so that the in-laws will not know; this makes my husband think that I am the only one who is mean and not happy while the others are happy. Everyday, I try to tell him about his mother and how she is but he doesn't believe me and would say all these other stuff to back her up. We had soo many fights when I bring up stuff about his family. Since he won't let me go to work and pregnant right now, I been taking care of his parents since I married him; I see how his mother really is. I fell like a slave and not a wife most time. I wake up, cook, clean, stay home all day long watching the house and his parents then clean and cook for the whole family when they come home. This is my everyday life. Some days, so many guests come to visit that I have to kill myself to cook for them eventhough I am pregnant. My mother-in-law would cry to the guestsand say stuff to them and then they would look at me weird and start cooking medicine for her and tell me what to do. Every guests that come to the house would give me medicine to cook for my in-laws and this and that. They all tell me the same thing every time " you stay home so do this and that for your in-laws". I feel like I am losing my mind. When I tell my husband about this and that some people that come to the house don't respect me, talk very rude to me, and think I don't do anything, after they talked to his mom, he thinks and tells me that I am crazy.
My mother-in-law would fake that she can't pick up her spoon or can't eat anything infront of guests but when there's none, she would eat all her food. I get soo mad when she does this because the guests would come up to me and tell me to cook the malt-o-meal and this other wheat soup for her. I feel like crying everytime because I do cook those for her and no one sees it. They just tell me what else to do and etc. I feel like exploding but I can't because these are old people. They act like they were never a daughter-in-law before. I feel like every guest that we had; always pick on me just because I stay home eventhough I don't want to. Even if I work or go to school, I will still have to cook and clean as much anyways and it will drive me crazy. I can not plan anything because almost every weekend, the whole family has to throw a hmong ritual party for the in-laws because they both are in bad health and etc. We did soo many already and its not even helping but the people outside think that we don't so they even does it too.
The saddest part is that my own husband doesn't really help me around the house eventhough I am pregnant. He can't even wash his own plate! He still thinks like the old people. He believes that women have their own roles and guys have their own. He always tell me that I think too much and that I should not think of it and just think of the positive. I tell him that I can't because it seems like everyone expect me to do soo much and I only have two hands and a brain that is shrinking everyday. I did expected marriage life to be hard and etc but not this much. This family has soo many guests that the daugther-in-laws is always cooking and cleaning everyweek. The sad thing about this family is that they expect their daughter-in-laws to do everything while their daughters don't have to do anything and plus they don't know how to do anything. They are soo smart in school and always brag about it and always say others are dumb and stupid but my gosh! can't even use their brain when it comes to house work and cooking. To me, a smart person is a person that knows how to use its hands and legs and brain all together. This family is soo spoil. They all sit and wait until all the daughter-in-laws finish cooking then eat like they are some kind of royal family or something.
God, I wish I can move out but I know that I can't. I tried and look at me; still living with them because the father won't let us move out. I feel like I have to live like this until they are gone. Gosh I hope its soon because I know I will go crazy oneday.
"My husband said that when the outside people start talking shit about you is because someone in the family started it"
Funny because I tell him that its his mom who did it and when someone really do walk up to me or me hearing anything bad about me, I will really say shit to his parents and etc. This is my marriage life. I don't know what you are thinking about me now but I do have some thoughts in my head of what you might say or think but its okay. I never wanted to end up like this but here I am getting everything that I did not want. I realize that in life, what you don't want, god tend to give it to you. Good luck to those of yous that are still not married yet. In-laws can be soo crual.