Don't you think it is better for me to ask him questions than to keep it inside and just burst out someday if I 'm curious about it? I don't like to wonder or have doubts in my relationship. That's why I just asked him straight forward like that to see what he was going to say but then I just don't understand why he couldn't answer me when I asked him "if your ex gf wanted you back, would you go back with her or not? If he just tells me that he was really only curious and that he didn't want her back then I wouldn't be upset about it. It kinda made me wonder if he was still inlove with his ex or not?
Yes, it's definitely good to talk things through so you won't sit under the gloomy cloud and frustrated for no apparent reason.
But I just think that he may feel he was put on the spot, being suspected of wrong doing already, so he just doesn't want to sit and explain himself. The question of going back to their former partner, is probably unlikely, but if you keep questioning him, lacking trust in him can cause him to walk away.
Maybe he walked out because he is upset that you don't trust him when you two have already invested life together, and even bought a house together. But I guess I can't sit here and think what he may be thinking.
Someone told me, you can break up with someone, but they will always have some kind of spot in your heart, whether it be hatred or friendship, so for them to get over their whole past is probably very hard. Especially when he loved her and he was dumped.
I don't think he is in "love" with her, if he was in love with her, I don't see why he would be with you and try to start a future with you.
If that's the case then I want him to be true to his feeling and I won't hold him back. I am not the kind of person that cares about people's past because it is the past and you can't go back and change it and I don't get jealous over his ex if he's just talking about them but if you're bringing her into our lives then that's another story.. I actually met his ex before at a restaurant with him and I really don't have anything against the girl. One thing is that I asked him why he didn't ask her about it when he saw her at the restaurant if he was that curious about it.
Again, you'e asking "what if" questions and making yourself feel bad about it all.
Yeah along with note, you are fine being jealous, everyone has it for those they care for. it's not wrong to feel this way, but if there really isn't much to it, i don't think you should let this bother you.
Additionally, like dyno said, if he didn't love you he would've been long gone, why would he sit here to have you questioning his authority and love for you and someone else? That's just too much aggravation that a guy
cannot take for someone he doesn't care or love.
Answering your why couldn't he ask her at the restaurant, when you first see someone in the public from the last breakup that wasn't so good, I don't think they would approach them and ask, "Why did you break up with me, do you have kids now, are you still single, or are you married?" It's more like a shocker, feeling of "oh my god, that's her, why the hell do I have to see her again? who'd she come with, she looks the same...blah blah blah" ... the type of thoughts to go into further questioning is when you sit down, get to process your thoughts. but i'm guessing that event wasn't a gathering for him, his ex, and yourself was it? and i don't think he'd feel comfortable asking those type of questions with someone who dumped him. i don't know about him, but i'd feel mighty uncomfortable.
