This is my first time writing this. Please bear with me. I recently just got into a relationship. (I've been single for 6 years) I'm an older gal. But anyways. I met this guy who is almost 7 years older than me. He got a good job, the perfect guy for me, no kid, and never been married. But the downfall of this is that he is not financially stable even thought he makes a lot of money but it seem like he has nothing to show for and i don't know what he spend on. I think he maybe in debt. I hate to bring in the subject; money but i think in order for a relationship to work we have to talk about financial situation especially if we want to start a family. To me a guy that age should have a goal set up. I'm definately different from him. We both have a good job, and he does make more than me but i have a lots more stuff to show for than he does. I can understand if he spend on jewelry, expensive clothes, etc. But he doesn't have any of that to show for. So therefor i don't know how he spend so much. Well what i'm really getting at is that how can i approach him in talking about money. How he could save and what the future hold? I have a goal set up for myself in buying a house next year but he doesn't seem to care and he's older than me. What should i do? I have mix feeling and have a hard time deciding if i want to be with him. I don't know what i should do. Should i go on and see what happens or should i just let it out and tell him how i fee.