To be honest, I used to be very rigid and narrow with my beliefs and mentality UP UNTIL I ended up falling for a divorcee with a child. Okay, okay...sorry to offend anyone, but I've always wanted a single man who hasn't walked down the aisle with anyone yet, you know? Someone who hasn't promised to love and cherish another woman for their entire life, someone they haven't imagined being their life partner or mother of his children yet? It's pretty hard dating a guy with a child from a previous marriage especially when the ex is still crazy over him. His child is hard to handle especially when she's taught to hate me because I so called am stealing her Dad. His family always compares me to his ex. They meet up all the time due to their child. He always gives in to his child when there's some tension between us. Is this karma? Haha. Anyway, that's another story. I'm in my twenties and still innocent, so I just thought I would fall for a single guy around my circle because there are plenty of cute guys around my age and we hang out but I never sparked with anyone besides him. That's when my entire world came crashing down. Like literally. I was confused, lost, and devastated. I really tried to move on from this guy and kept myself busy for months, sorry, avoiding him like crazy just to fall even harder. Yes, I feel guilty for even sharing this because KitKat had shared that her boyfriend's family treated her like a disease for being a divorcee. Sorry, you had to go through that. Please don't get mad or get me wrong. I'm still young and learning, breaking barriers, so of course, all of us are going to have old beliefs replaced with new ones as we mature. Haha. And I think that's okay. As long as people keep learning. That's how life is. I didn't hate him like a disease but I just wanted to be with a single man like in the dramas or movies. But that didn't happen. Anyway, so what did I learn from all this?! Who cares about the unwritten rules of dating. If you fall in love, you fall in love. It's so unpredictable. As long as it's not blood related. At the end of the day, if you fall in love with your friend's ex, a person who became your friend after they broke up, I don't see the huge taboo, especially if this friend has given you their blessings. Of course, we don't know that yet. And of course, this ain't exactly the same scenario as mine but what I'm saying is, a lot of the times, we don't want to fall in love with a certain someone, but we do anyway like Matt. That's why I understand her. And I'm sure Vill didn't want to fall for Jes knowing how close she is with Gypsy, but things happen. Life is so short. If you really love this person, is it worth it to never pursue him for a friend who would probably never date him again. Everyone has a past. What are these unwritten rules about anyway? If your friend loves you, she'll give you her blessings because it's part of the past. What's the point of holding onto the past if it's never going to matter in the future? Why hold two people apart? Just because you may have feelings? If you do, then yes, I say handle it a different way but if you don't, then give them your blessings. It's only truly awkward if there are still some lingering feelings. Plus, as we age, we should learn how to let go of things.