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Yes, money is a contributing factor for many broken relationships.money...money....money...
i hate that slogan and i get to hear that all the time from mom too.When I hear about a Hmong wedding, my first thought is "she must be pregnant." And ninety nine percent of the time, I always end up being correct.
Sometimes Hmong parents would constantly remind their children... "We only raised you, we won't be there for you when you grow old" or "Peb Tu Nej Hlob Xwb Tsis Yug Nej Laus," maybe it's a fear or pressure.
But I simply think Hmong kids are just too naive. I know many will oppose this idea but Hmong kids (at highschool age ++) should be taught sex education/protection. If they want to mate at least protect yourself. I see couples struggling financially and yet continuing to have children which they can't afford to take care of, this frustrates me alot because I hate seeing children suffer due to their parents irresponsibility.
There's a thing called survival of the fittest. Regardless of where you live, if you don't adapt into the environment you will not survive. This is not like back in Laos or Thailand where you can start a family anytime you want and farm to support your family. In America, you have to go to school and get a good education in order to live the lifestyle you want and to support your family.in my opinion - it's ok to get married young. (unless a girl is younger than 14)
I see a lot of corrupted teenaged girls who are not married - and I truly feel sorry for them.
If marriage keeps them focused in life then let it be.
Just because someone has children at the age of 16 doesn't mean it's bad. It just means they're fertile and fit for survival. You may look at a young pregnant woman and think it's not right or whatever you think it is.... but you really don't know what the true feeling of carrying a baby in the womb is like, and you don't know what it's like to be expecting a child unless you experience it yourself.
of course like many of you said, when you're married you don't have as much fun anymore, but who would you have fun with anyway? When you're married you can have fun with your spouse anytime and anywhere you two want. You don't need the permission of anybody, you have no curfew, you have the whole world with you so why worry about it...
But maybe I just have a different view than you all - cuz I'm married, and I love being married to my husband. When you realize the reasons why you got married, you wouldn't pick anything else over your marriage.
you just can't say that it's the girls that think they can raise a family...There's a thing called survival of the fittest. Regardless of where you live, if you don't adapt into the environment you will not survive. This is not like back in Laos or Thailand where you can start a family anytime you want and farm to support your family. In America, you have to go to school and get a good education in order to live the lifestyle you want and to support your family.
The problem is not whether it's right or wrong to marry young, but does these young couples understand all the responsibilities involved in a marriage. Do you really think a 15 or 16 year old girl really have any idea on how to raise a family? Some may say they do, but I doubt it. I've seen so many young couples struggling to support their families and depend too much on their parents to help support them and their kids. That's just pathetic and ignorant in my opinion.
People just need to think before they do anything. How hard is that? It's not rocket science or anything. -_-
If you read my comment clearly, I am mentioned both parties of the marriage. I made a statement about girls getting married at a young age in response to angelxmdawb's comment saying that "in my opinion - it's ok to get married young. (unless a girl is younger than 14)."you just can't say that it's the girls that think they can raise a family...
what about the guys?
the low life asses? lol.
shiet.. i know hella guys that don't do shiet for their wife and kid..
it's just sad...
dude... it takes 2 people to build a life together...
when you're with a guy.. they make themself sound mature and allIf you read my comment clearly, I am mentioned both parties of the marriage. I made a statement about girls getting married at a young age in response to angelxmdawb's comment saying that "in my opinion - it's ok to get married young. (unless a girl is younger than 14)."
Also, the girls who marries these low life guys kind of deserve what they got if you really think about it. Many of the times, they knew what kind of a person these guys are, and yet they still marry them. Goes to show that playing family is NOT a good idea. By the way, I'm picking on the girls because they're more vunerable than the guys. ^_^
There's a thing called survival of the fittest. Regardless of where you live, if you don't adapt into the environment you will not survive. This is not like back in Laos or Thailand where you can start a family anytime you want and farm to support your family. In America, you have to go to school and get a good education in order to live the lifestyle you want and to support your family.
The problem is not whether it's right or wrong to marry young, but does these young couples understand all the responsibilities involved in a marriage. Do you really think a 15 or 16 year old girl really have any idea on how to raise a family? Some may say they do, but I doubt it. I've seen so many young couples struggling to support their families and depend too much on their parents to help support them and their kids. That's just pathetic and ignorant in my opinion.
People just need to think before they do anything. How hard is that? It's not rocket science or anything. -_-
You do know that it's getting harder and harder to get a job nowadays with just a high school diploma right? Have your parents ever told you to go to school and get an education so that one day you will be better off than they were? There's a reason why so many people from other countries want to come to the United States so bad.....education and opportunities.Who says that after you get education and a college degree, you can already support yourself? Even lots of educated Americans depend on their parents until they are in their 30s or 40s. Like my parents say, no matter how old you are- you will always end up depending on your parents one day for some reason. So I see nothing wrong in depending on their parents to support them.
But I agree - people do need to think before they do anything - and everyone has that chance. Whatever they choose, they also have to accept the consequences (if there are any). I'd rather see a young couple get married young and devote to each other (whether it's good or bad) than see them in college, cohabiting secretly without their parent's knowledge, and who knows what else they do. At least young couples have more respect for their parents.
That kind of thought is one of the reasons why Hmong people are not making any progress in life. That's why many Hmong people are living in poverty, especially the younger generation because we don't view education as anything important.that is trueangelxmdawb i do believe that young couples respect their parents more...and yes i dont believe just cause u graduate from high skool or college means u can support urself...and i agree with u that u'll always need to depend on ur parents no matter what...and theres nothing wrong with that...i know i'll always depend on my parents for support and help if i need any..but of course i know that i should support myself too
i was just about to say that too..Marriage doesn't cut off your chances of getting an education and having opportunities.
I know lots of young women who are married and go to college, some even have 3 children yet they still graduate within 4 years after highschool from college. Don't stereotype that married women are at lost. Also, not all young couples are parents. Just because a couple gets married doesn't mean that they already have children to support.
Also, if a young woman goes to college and does things behind their parents back (as in "knowing how to use their brain") then that's good for them. If she's ok with marrying later on in life with a guy who has also been with another woman besides her, that's her preference - yes we are in America and things have changed so let it be... Americans live this lifestyle and if some people like that adaptation, go ahead and put it into your lifestyle.
Anyway, I still believe that young and married couples have more respect for their parents. I see many teenagers argue with their parents about STUPID THINGS, complain about stupid things, and do stupid things.... and don't appreciate the things their parents do for them. Being married, you see the bigger picture in life and appreciate the REAL life.. therefore your respect is more real and honest.
But anyway, that's just me, since I'm the minority here amongst all these single sarnies.. lol.
You can all experience life at your pace, and see what you think about the married life 5+ years after you get married. -_-
Do you even read what I wrote? lol... When did I say marriage gets in anyone's way of getting an education? And I'm not just talking about the ladies, the guys as well so stop turning my writings into a sexist remarks. And like I said, I'm just talking about the majority. And the majority of the time, many of these young Hmong couples have kids at a young age. The problem with this is that these kids really have no clue on what's going on. It's basically kids raising kids and parents taking in more kids to support.Marriage doesn't cut off your chances of getting an education and having opportunities.
I know lots of young women who are married and go to college, some even have 3 children yet they still graduate within 4 years after highschool from college. Don't stereotype that married women are at lost. Also, not all young couples are parents. Just because a couple gets married doesn't mean that they already have children to support.
Also, if a young woman goes to college and does things behind their parents back (as in "knowing how to use their brain") then that's good for them. If she's ok with marrying later on in life with a guy who has also been with another woman besides her, that's her preference - yes we are in America and things have changed so let it be... Americans live this lifestyle and if some people like that adaptation, go ahead and put it into your lifestyle.
Anyway, I still believe that young and married couples have more respect for their parents. I see many teenagers argue with their parents about STUPID THINGS, complain about stupid things, and do stupid things.... and don't appreciate the things their parents do for them. Being married, you see the bigger picture in life and appreciate the REAL life.. therefore your respect is more real and honest.
But anyway, that's just me, since I'm the minority here amongst all these single sarnies.. lol.
You can all experience life at your pace, and see what you think about the married life 5+ years after you get married. -_-
You too, stop trying to label me as a sexist. Are you like some sort of feminist or something?i was just about to say that too..
just because a young woman is married..
it doesn't mean she can't go to school... or get a good job
[some] people are more motivated after marriage
so.. please.. don't speak for the crowd.. lol.