Kyah. This is like when my boyfriend is going to go out drinking & I tell him not to.
He says "I can't promise anything." I don't know if your man is like mine; but he
cares enough about my thoughts to try to not overdo it. We've gone through an
incident where he went out of state and I begged him not to drink and all he said
was "Too bad because we've already started; but I'll be okay." I got really pissed
and ignored him for two and a half days straight. He learned his lesson, I'm sure.
When he speaks of drinking, I get pissed so he knows.
Honestly, if you've cried to him and begged him not to...There could be two options.
He'll be okay but he's just picking on you to see you show how much you care (but
he's doing a good job at being convincing). Or, he just doesn't care enough to
respect how you feel about him going to a strip club. If you throw a tantrum about it,
and he gets mad, he'll probably go just to spite you & piss you off more. If you do
believe that he truly loves you, then I'm sure he'll restrain himself. If he's just
completely ignoring your pleas...Then you guys need to maturely & seriously talk it
out to a point where both of you will be okay with the circumstances.
Boys are stupid...Sometimes. In a way, this is a test. If he does something stupid,
then I think it'd be obvious how much loyalty he has towards you & if he doesn't,
then you know he cares enough about you to not do anything that'll hurt you.
At times, at the last minute, things seem to just fall in place. So I think that if you
are extremely unhappy about it, him going to the strip club might not even happen
at the last minute. I know that if my boyfriend were to go to the strip club on his
21st birthday or whatever event, I'd probably disallow it too. I'm a b*tchy girlfriend.
But then again, he's already gone to a strip club a couple times so missing an
opportunity to go again might not be important to him; darn him. =_=^^