'There was only 1 instant... you said didn't seems...so that cast some doubt....it like writing a paper... you need multiple references to prove that fact.'
-Arthit ran to bangkok twice to avoid Pang and Pang went to bangkok to meet arthit.
-Pang force kissing Arthit
-Chasing him outside his house which was only a few steps away from where his parents were seated.He pushing her down and she crying over there.
The dad has seen some events and some he has been informed. There is no way arthit would force himself on her if he wants to avoid her. His dad also knows that pang can have extreme behavior because of the trauma and he shouldn't believe her and allow sometime before announcing marriage.
'What is normal for her? She lost her parents in the most tragic way....'
Yes. Its not normal. It was tragic. The doctor has explained her situation to Prathip and Arthit is aware of it.
'Again as a viewer we saw more.'
yes we did. but even if we skip the scenes which were shown to viewers only, there was more than 1 instances when pang went extreme in chasing after him and these were either seen by his dad or informed to him(like the kiss scene,arthit and pang's whereabouts)
'Majority of the time in mental health. Ppl rarely notice....many ppl commit suicide and many ppl are like...I never knew...even those who are close to them about the struggles.'
Actually it happens a lot. Mental health gets diagnosed a lot late and some even don't know what it is. But here in her case,the doctor has informed Prathip about it. Prathip has inturn informed this to Arthit. So both are aware of her condition.
'Pk & the mom just saw her as bratty spoiled kid.....they themselves didn't think more to it either'
Arthit was as caring to Pang like his dad and he was aware of her situation. Though before her parents death he saw her as a problematic kid but after her parents death he sympathizes with her and goes out of his way to help her. It was his idea to have a garden for Pang. She starts eating food and smiles when arthit tries to be nice. Though he was not comfortable with her clinging ways(he complains this to Non),he lets her do what she wants like the scene where she rests her head on him which watching TV and also holding his hands , dropping and picking up from school, promising her that he will visit her on weekends etc. One can't marry someone for the sake of healing/supporting them even if you sympathize with them. If Pang needed support he could have given it to her except for marriage and engagement. Arthit and his mom don't sail in the same boat. His mom's attitude and Arthit's attitude towards Pang were of two different kinds.
'Does he believe and trust his son.....to a certain extend......does he doubt what he saw....nk rip shirt...his son is drunk on top of her holding her down. So you telling me he can't believe what he sees....does he truly believe his son intentionally want to "R" her....not necessarily but there was something there....'
Yes the scene was misleading. But when Arthit explains that though he is drunk he is clearly aware of what happened,his father could have given him benefit of doubt and not declared marriage purely based on what he saw or what pang said. Pang lied to the same uncle who cared for her the most.
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Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) was faced by Kao because of her parents tragic death. Most probably Arthit is also suffering from it because of his near to death car accident. That could be the reason for his angry outbursts.
My point is there a cause of doubt.
Seeing some things don't mean they know what it is.....was the dad there at any of this instant? Was the dad at the school and seeing pang doing all that stuff? Did he see her fight at school? I will not said it was seen by him... My analysis is not base on "probably told to him or maybe he seen it." It is base on what is shown on screen and what they talked about.
If it was told to him or the mom. Mom will be all over it to throw in nk face and the dad's face. Mom only know about her going into the room that night. She never once spoke of the other things she done at school ect.
The kids I work with do these things often. We of course always tell the Sped directions and that we need more staffs. We never got it. One day she had to cover and she saw 1st hand what happened. The impact of seeing it in person has more amp than us just telling her what has been going on (we been doing so for months!)
Nk has more than PTSD. She had issues beforehand. Also that definition doesn't define each individual situations on how they display their "issues". That is a narrow base. Mental health...autism "umbrella " is a broad spectrum.
90% of teachers aren't even educated in this and don't see any of the sigh nor do they understand. It is really sad. They just think the kid is "bad". They usually aggravated the the students with how they react to them, because they don't recognize the sign with lack of educations/knowledge of mental health.
The 3 characters (pk & family) are not mental health professionals.
The mom has her bias...she see her as bad regardless.
Pk only base on what he see from nk as well. At 1st he saw she was a kid who needed a friend....then he saw a clingy girl who wants him. Their perception about her now hasn't change.
Dad saw a broken child who lost her parents. He the only one who knows the truth. He emphasize & sympathize with her. So why would her crying be unusual or that the crying warrant a stay at the mental health Institute. He know she is devastated by what happen the way he is helping her is with her love & care.
Again ...yes as a viewer we see more and the whole picture. We see her fights with kids at school, we see her fight with the mom and her being clingy to pk. We all see her getting bully, therefore we understand. The dad was not in these situations/ scenes of these incidents. The dad is consistent. He is still the same now. The mom complained and said nk bully Non sister and he just shook it off and laugh and said let them work it out.
The drama will also show you that when pk sees and get to know the Whole situation....he will also understand her better and not have those "intense grudge" because he will emphasize & sympathize. This help him forgive her better.. So yes having the whole full picture will help our perception.
I have worked with many mental health children and their parents/ families. I have seen the parents not seeing nor noticing a lot of things...although they are suppose to know/see them the most. There is many different reason why....not being educated/ exposed to mental issues, denial....our bias...so on....
I also talk to the parents about certain behaviors and it mostly me trying to relay them the facts and having them not believe it or is in denial.
I'm not better than anyone else in knowledge....but I have experience and see these things everyday. It is not just "text book" definition of what it should be.
