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cecilia

cecilia

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Byebye, you seem to have a great relationship .. I want a future like that now lol
 
I completely agree -- my parent only take it when I offer it to them otherwise they don't ask either. I think that's why I love my parent to pieces and I honestly think that if my future mother in law is as kind as my mother is to me, I would love her to pieces too. My younger sister has a mother in law that is just as great .. I feel so much love from her every time I visit my niece and nephew. She always try to make sure I'm comfortable at their place so for that I want a good mother in law.  I'm not saying that the not so good mother in law are bad -- I just prefer the nicer one because it'll be a lot easier for us to communicate since we both love the same man :wub:
 
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Trust me CC....having a nice mother in-law makes a difference in the world. I have a friend whose mother in-law demands certain amount of money. And always in their relationship talking crap all the time.
 
I honestly, think I luck out big time. They give me stuff left and right I don't know what to do with it. When we go to visit I am never required to do anything. If I want something to eat, all I have to do is ask and she'll make it for me. She told my husband that, to always love me and treat me nice. When he talks silly to me or play a little rough, she'll make noises or tell him to stop cause she thinks he is hurting me.
 
The thing is she understands that we grew up in different time so she never holds anything against me. For ever how many years I am married I have never once call them...my husband and I came to an understand that he deals with his family and I deal with mine. He never say anything to me just because I never call his parents...and I never say anything to him when he never call my parents. I love it that way though...so we don't get into each other's family's problems. It worked for us...but I don't k now how others would take it.
 
Got to add this...I was so mad at my husband last night after I hung up the phone from him that I didn't talk to him today. So before he goes to bed, he text me....."Good night. I still love you" :heart:
 
And I replied something stupid lol
 
cecilia

cecilia

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aw, now I want more for a husband -- love that he still do all those to get your attention :)
 
My mother is a funny lady -- she said she understand how people are these days so she will not demand or live with them forever. When she gets older she wants a place of her own and won't bother anyone because she doesn't want to get into anyone's business lol I told her not to do that -- I'm sure her future daughter in law will love her as much as us daughters too but seriously, i love my mother to pieces because she always motivate me and my sisters to seek out the best in life and for that I think she'll be a good mother in law.
 
Anyway, this picture brought a smile to my face -- too funny and cute!
 
 
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OMG!!! That picture is priceless. I love babies. The smell of them is so unique.
 
The thing is my mother in-law and my mom is like night and day. My mom is very hard to tolerate. I can't be around her no more than 2 weeks. I can love her from afar but never close up for a long period of time. I can do so much for my mom but she'll never see the good so I gave up and just casually gives her attention as I see fit. I still love my mom because she is my mom but she does not make a good mother in-law. My husband is actually one of the most patience man...but she tests his patience whenever she comes and stay with us. The only thing is, she'll never do anything to jeopardize my husband's relationship cause she respect him...but with me...gosh lol. Now I am blunt with her. I tell it like I see it.
 
My other brother and I are the only ones that gives her money all the time. When their medications cost a lot...only us 2 would split the costs. I used to drop everything to go to them if one of them are sick. Now, I don't as much. I don't give them as much money. But the funny thing is, once I stop giving them money they turn around and give my kids money every time they see them. Which before she never does. So, whoever is going to marry my other brother I feel sorry for her lol. I told my brother that if you want your relationship to last you better not let mom stay with you hahhaha...
 
cecilia

cecilia

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I'm touched by his love for his wife -- I want this kind of Mr. Right :wub:
(can't stop the happy tears from falling)
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_99ySDoC1fw
 
*I heard my name in there (kidding, it's his wife's name)
 
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sarNie OldFart
When I watch Say yes to the dress, some of them give me tears. I remember one of them, she was so young. She was walking with her friend and a guy started shooting for no reason and hits her in the back...she is paralyzed from the waist down. The day she got out the hospital she went to try her wedding dress. It was sweet and touching when she cried...all she wanted was to feel like a normal bride but couldn't really because she is in a wheelchair.
 
I love the fact her boyfriend wanted to married her still even if she will never walk again. Love sometimes, is by far the sweetest thing. One true love is really hard to find but when one do...it's pure magic.
 
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one of my client have leukemia and undergoes chemotherapy . she come in every 2 week or so to buy e-juice for her vape pen , at the shop we not only do tattoo , we do piercing , sell tattoo supply & hookah & vape & e-jucie . she came w/ her husband and today she wasn't feeling good and i told her to rest on the sofa a bit before leaving and then she told me about her cancer . Her husband was such a sweet heart and went to get her blanket , food , water and whatever she want and he would kiss her every time he leave to get something . She said " My husband want to offer his narrow bone but I don't want it . If anything happen to him who will be with the kids and I want him to be healthy. He too precious and I love him to much " . Ok , when she said that I had tear in my eye haha. I never knew she was sick , she was regular client for over a year now and I always thought her husband look so mean but he very sweet today , I can see how much he care and worries when she was about to faint .
 
cecilia

cecilia

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That's love right there .. til death do us part --- 
 
Ladies, I have to add that every time I read about someone's love story I always want to have it repeats in one way or another with me .. I know, I should create my own but some of these stories are just so sweet and touching ... I'm hoping to have something like this in the long run when my Mr. Right comes along my way :wub:
 
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CC...I am the same way. When I read about other's people love story I wanted mine like that as well. There are things in my relationship that I work on everyday trying to better it. But since it's almost 16 years I am not sure it's going to get a whole lot of better. It is not bad, but there are things I wished we both could work on.
 
By no means, I want it to be perfect because perfection would bore me to death but I did have a vision of what my marriage would be when I do get married. I could do a lot worst in a husband that is for sure. He does not smoke, doesn't drink and doesn't gamble. He loves his family and never ever call me names or barely raised his voice at me (There was one time he did raised his voice but that was my fault. I sprayed woman's body spray at him and it got to his nose, and eyes so bad lol he was seeing red)
 
But I want a man that is less of a sarcastic person and somehow I got the King of sarcasm. Anyway, I told him how I really feel about it, so far the last 2 days he has not been sarcastic towards me...I am going to see how long it'll last :)
 
cecilia

cecilia

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LOl I'm bad with sarcasm -- it irks me too :(
 
I do not want a perfect life but a happy comfortable life will be nice to dream for. By all means, I'm not perfect and will not expect anyone to be perfect either -- I want my man to be able to put up with my small big demands lol -- getting along with my family, friends, and try to work things out with me along the way without being negative about it. I like to be talk to nicely :p If he doesn't like a certain attitude of mine then he should direct me nicely to fix it -- I like changes and won't mind doing it for the better of us :wub:
 
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My husband has one habit that really makes me turn crazy...and that is asking him to hang something on the wall. Granted I changed my mind every couple of months on what I want hang but that's not the point.
 
I ask him once...nothing gets done. Twice and by the third time I don't give a crap so I hang it myself, then he gets frustrated that I put 20 holes in the wall cause I don't know how to make it straight. I can't measure anything if my life depends on it. Instead of using measurement tape, or ruler...I just used my eyes and fingers lol.
 
The only problem with me is, I changed my mind a lot about decorating the house. Our house is 3,500 sq feet so it's a fairly decent size and painting isn't easy since the ceiling is like 28 ft tall...when we first moved in, we hired someone to paint the entire house...then a couple of months later I didn't like it so I painted all the rooms and bathrooms myself...a year later I didn't like it and repainted it. Now, I am painting it again. It has been a 3 months project lol. And that is one thing that gets on his nerve but yet I blame him cause I said, he has no taste and never likes to update anything hahaha...
 
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sarNie Granny
Now , here where I'm a good catch . I can do handyman work !! I use to be a roof contractor , I hire Mexican to work on roof & houses & in the process I learn to do lot of thing ( I left my office job to work w/ the boys ) , I install the whole security camera thur the celling at the shop , fix the electronic light, build the booth section for the artist , change the floor tiles ..ect. I can cook all type of food , clean , massage ( I do good massage ) and gosh ...the list can go on . Anyone , who have me as a wife , I will pamper him like a doll and he will never be starve or lift a finger in his life ! He can just stay home and have my babies !
 
cecilia

cecilia

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This thread has been silent far too long lol Coming back with a great read again. I realize that I'm more of a cynical than a hopeful romantic or maybe I'm in between since I like giving people chances but be cautious at the same time   :)
 
http://elitedaily.com/dating/reasons-cynical-romantics-luckier-hopeful-romancies/875541/?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=EG_W2_875541&utm_content=EG_W2_875541
 
another one .. I truly believe in personify :)
 
http://elitedaily.com/women/beyond-looks-character-will-forever-sexiest-trait-men/949954/
 
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sarNie OldFart
A question, if you are making love to your boyfriend or husband...if he calls out someone else name would you be mad, leave or forgive?
 
This happened to a friend of mine...she knows her husband has this feeling for a cousin of hers but it just stops there. He hasn't done anything or is planning on to. The cousin is a single mom with 2 kids...the thing is the husband knows that he can't have her or wants a girl like her...but at the same time my friend knows that he is attracted to her. Because when they are around like a get together or a gathering of friends and family...she said, her husband looks at the cousin in a way that she knows there's something there in him for her but she also knows that he won't react to it.
 
Anyway, back to the love making thing...he happens to blurt the cousin name out when they were doing it (yikes). The thing is she felt like she is stuck in the middle. She knows he won't go to her but she knows he is attracted to her. I told her, it is up to her as to what she wants to do. 
 
I know the husband well, and he is a very nice person who doesn't intentionally do anything to hurt my friend. He won't ever leave my friend because he does love her. He has given everything to her...spoils her rotten...he travel the world and has never done anything behind her back. He said, he would not do things to jeopardize what he have...because his family means the world to him. And silly me, I asked him point blank is he attracted to the cousin?
 
He said no, but even I can see that there is an attraction on his part. But do I think,  he'll act on that...I can say for sure no. The cousin is kind of crazy and is still off and on with her ex-husband. And the cousin is so picky in her men, the husband would not even make her list lol. She would never go for anyone that already has kids and the guy that wants to be with her has to marry her plus her entire family lol.  The husband knows that the cousin and her family is very dysfunctional that is why it will never go further than the attraction. But what hurts my friend...he is still attracted to her even knowing he can't have her. 
 
I don't think my friend will ever leave her husband just for the attraction but she'll leave if  he ever cross the line. But how do you stay married to a guy that is attracted to another girl...and that girl is your own cousin. The last get together...he looks at her here and there but he doesn't talk to her...and he tries his best to ignore her, though I can see when he does set eyes on her it's a telling sign. So dumb of the husband too...how do you want someone you know you'll never have?
 
cecilia

cecilia

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That's wrong in many levels -- I'd be sad if that's my husband. He should let her go and move on if he's not attracted to her anymore, don't just hang onto her for reputation, etc.  In a way, I think it's selfish on his part because he wants one but is not willing to let go of other -- he's hurting her a lot more than just letting her go and be happy. Because I'm not in your friend's shoe, I can't really make a decision for her but if I were to be her, I would make things clear with him.  Draw a line and continue things from there ... I know for sure I do not want to live miserable for the rest of my life or being hurt by him, pretending to be silence and unaware of the situation. 
 
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My friend is an attractive girl, if he divorce her she won't be single for long. That is how cute or pretty she is. Even when she is married she gets asked out or hit on a lot. But the girl never even care. The thing that gets me is, he is attracted to his wife...He finds her pretty but he also can't help that he is attracted to her cousin as well.
 
To him, in his eyes he says no, it is nothing. But my friend wants to make sure that she isn't just overthinking stuff had asked me to observe him from a distance when he is looking at her cousin. I will say he is attracted to her cousin. But you kind of have to look at him closely and know him to catch it.
 
It has gotten better though, because my friend was really upset about it and confronted him. But the name calling is something that had hurt her more than anything. She never told him exactly who it was that he called out but she just said, it was a girl's name that he had called out. I can see why she is heartbroken by that. Any girl would have been devastated.
 
She told me that they have had a big fight about it in the past. She wanted to leave him for it but she is the type that if she ever do leave she'll never go back to him. She wants to make sure she is making the right decision. She knows that he would not cheat on her...like sleeping around. But at the same time, she is hurt by this attraction that for the life of him, he can't stop. Other than that, he is a good man to her and the kids.
 
It is hard in a way for my friend, I guess. She said, if he doesn't "cheat" she won't leave but the thing is...since the cousin is hanging around the same circle when they get together they see each other...which is like almost every other week.
 
cecilia

cecilia

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Don't know what to say .. can't persuade her to do anything if she's not willing to take the risk herself. 
 
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That is the hard part...I have told her if she is not happy then she has to leave. But she has never been alone before. She is afraid to do it now. She is scared to start over with life...dating and so on. He has never physically or verbally abuse her but emotionally he has hurt her a lot. She's a sweet girl and sometimes I wonder for her is marriage life all that great?
 
There are days she says she doesn't want to continue on this way but it's hard for her because he won't admit to it...I think if he does admit to it, she might able to handle it better as far as where the lines are being drawn. But when she brings it up to him, he gets upset and says why is she accusing him...and why would he be attracted to a girl like her cousin. Stupid man, sometimes you can see the soul through someone's eyes.
 
Relationship like that is difficult. Because he is not physically cheating...he is just visually attracted lol. She can't outright come out and say...you cheat on me...but she also can't ignore the fact...he finds someone pretty and just plainly attracted to the other person. It sucks regardless of how my friend looks at it. I honestly, wants her to leave and have the courage to do so. But I don't think she will.
 
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sarNie Granny
you can be in LOVE w/ someone and in LUST w/ another , there are husband that cheated but at the end they goes back to their wife b/c the other woman is just lust that most men seek. I can fall in love 10 x a day , once a new cute guy walk in the shop , I completely forgot about the one I just hit on & if I were a man I be paying child support in every town. I can understand where the husband feeling ^^ man are selfish pig when it come to lust but man w/ responsible & great restraint are the type that put his family happiness before him. I recently went on a date w/ a very beautiful man --- his skin was flawless w/ long dreadlocks hair & pretty big white teeth , the man put a female like me in shame ! --- I was physically attractive to him &  a little in love as well but he have one flaw .  He talk about sex NONSTOP !!! To the point I realize this man will cheat on me if the opportunity present itself . The beautiful  one are the most dangerous of all ! So , when he ask me out again , I rejected him .
 
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