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[byebye]

I think it's too much to ask. To have everything on that list...it's like 1 in a million if even. I was reading the list and I get a few. But CC I do get #10 lol. I don't know if that means anything.
 
The writing notes thing, I don't want it all the time I want it sometimes or really once in a blue moon..I want it a surprise rather than an everyday thing. I think it lose it's value to have my husband write some sappy love note to me everyday...that's just me though

 

[cecilia]

It would take SUPERMAN to complete the whole list lol  Like you, excessive acts will hold less values in the end ... so surprise here and there would be nice to have.  I'm 50/50 on #15 but I like #13 just as much as #10   :wub:
 
 
 

13. To have a passion.
Or five of them. I never want to be anyone's everything, even yours. I really believe no one can grow in shade and I don't ever want us to feel suffocated by one another. I will support you in whatever you want to join, play or be part of, but have something you love besides me.

 
It's important to have someone who has a different passion .. It'll make the relationship more exciting because there's something different to do together (but all depend on how open mind you are as a person). I'm a laid back person and are always up to anything so whatever comes to mind will work for me lol
 
 
Off topic: I want a hug after watching this clip (going to hold my pillow to bed now) *sniff*
https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=820377681355353&fref=nf

 

[byebye]

I believe in space and space lol. As much time as I like to spend with my husband I need time to breathe and be away from him. When I do feel a little suffocation that is when I am ready for a girls' night out. It is important to have other interests than with your spouse or doing everything with your spouse. I don't want to be joint to the hips.
 
A marriage is still about balance and getting everything you want out of it is like asking for a miracle which rarely happens in a marriage. Everyone comes in with a baggage of some sort it just depends if you accept the baggage and work on it together and make the imperfections perfect as the marriage grows.
 
Hmmm...I went to a funeral for a couple from my church that had been married for 68 years. I went to view her while she lay peaceful and so beautiful in the casket with her husband standing there looking on. I talked to the husband and with her dying body there, I can feel just how much he loves her. He smiled and talked about his memories with her...as if it was something that happened just yesterday. He sounded so happy to able to relived those moments.
 
Honestly, I don't know if my marriage will ever get that way (hoping it does, but not holding my breath lol) but it was just a beautiful sight to see. How much he loves her and is still in love with her even when she's gone. A love like that is hard to find...

 

[cecilia]

I like personal space too ... too much of each other can be troublesome at times lol 
 
Anyway, went back to watch a clip of Koo Gum and still find Kobori to be super super attractive in the way he pays attention to Ang :wub:  Makes me want to find someone as good and understanding as him to be a partner lol

 

[sarN]

 Kobori  :heart:  :heart:  :heart:  :heart: I don't think i will give space to my future lover/husband/bf HAHA I be on him night and day ^^^ I mean be w/ him and check up on him  :baby:

 

[cecilia]

LOL can't do it .. I want space and will give him space to breathe too lol
 
Sharing this before heading to bed :wub:

No sugar coating, please

 

[sarN]

Agreed. Take the truth anytime. Today, I went to Idea Image to get laser hair removal and the worker who perform the task was sooooo FINE!!! When he told me to hop on and laid down on the bed , I told him to lock the door with a wink HAHA . Im so silly. Boys crazzy. 

 

[KhoOnxNouxWanxJai]

That list ... sounds like all I have except 
 
4. Sometimes he can be very affectionate when I want to just relax alone, but for the most part we both do our own thing if we really need to. He goes out to the shooting range and hang out with friends if I want to be alone. 
3. He is the main breadwinner so I have to give that to him lol.
8. He calls me chubby all the time cause my chubby cheeks lol and fatty but because I like to eat so I don't know if its the same? 
9. I don't cry in movies and never have so don't know if he would or wouldn't be
 
I honestly feel like I'm the guy in the relationship sometimes, he is the one who likes to do the date night stuff and hold hands at the store such stuff. The one that asks why I love him all the time rofl. We always joke about somehow the gender role in our marriage is switched. 

 

[byebye]

I was talking to my husband today and again I want to reach through the phone and smack him silly lol
 
We were talking about looks...I don't like to use makeup. I put eyeliners on once a year and that is for Cambodia's New Year. He knows that I always feel conscious about my looks from the get go. Even if I was told I am pretty throughout life, I just never feel pretty no matter what. I can't figure out why people think I am when I don't see it. I always feel like something is missing or wrong. In a sense, I am just insecure.
 
The conversation came up that when we do have a chance to go to formal events or places that require me to dress up and dolled myself, I just realized my husband never once says I am pretty or look nice. Like WTF...almost 16 years and I just figured it out. He said to me, I don't need to tell you that you are pretty because I think you are pretty everyday.
 
Ok, I don't know who is right or wrong. I told him, that is not the point because I never hear him say it. And when I take the time to fix myself up, it would not be much to ask if he would compliment me once in a blue moon. I told him, I don't want it all the time. Well, my husband was like, you don't hear it enough while you are growing up. :annoyed: :annoyed: :annoyed: :annoyed: :annoyed:
 
At that point, I knew I was going to say something stupid or I might regret. I just told him, Ok, I'll let you go talk to you later.
 
In short, I told him I was disappointed and I should not have to hear it from other men. I know talking to him more than an hour on the phone never bring anything good lol. The other day, I talked to him almost 3 hours and after I hung up from him I was mad

 

[KhoOnxNouxWanxJai]

Kind of off topic but one of my friends was joking about why he would never cheat on his wife and showed me this article.
 
Click ME (Warning sort of graphic information)
 
I was over here thinking how does he know his wife didn't set him up  

 

[byebye]

My husband came across an article about a couple that was married for 67 years and ended dying 5 hours apart. He asked me, if that was us would I want to die with him? I was like heck no...
 
I told him, if I was 90 or 100 years old I don't mind dying. But if he's dead at 65 and I am only 60 why would I want to die? I mean, 60 nowadays is young. I said, if that's the case...then bye bye. I got the nerve to tell him, it's selfish to want me to die just cause he is. Gosh, I know it's bad lol. It was actually a romantic question cause when a couple loved for so long they tend to die together. But somehow, I managed to turn it around hahahha

 

[cecilia]

What you wrote about the couple reminds me of my cup lol ...
 

 

[sarN]

You know , guys alway say thing to get us and once we their , they go back to their comfort zone , no dining no flower ect...and when they start to fart around us --- it a sign , it mean , their quest had ended our love is a done deal and it ok to morph back to real man. If you dating and he comfortable enough to pass gas with out a thought or a head turn , he confidence he won your heart already and I know this by smelling a lot of fart , since I'm easily fall for young man and my expression is too obvious ..

 

[byebye]

Talk about farting...I get pissed when he does it to me...freaking red in the face pissed lol while he thinks it's really cute.
 
On the dying thing...I don't want to die the same time as anyone if I am healthy and going strong. As much as I love you, I'll see you on the other side when the time comes.

 

[cecilia]

^lol You're cracking me up with 'see you on the other side'
 
This might be off topic but I came an article about Korean IDOl falling into depression and bumped into this other topic of Korean lifting their adultry ban ... quite funny how condom soar after the ban got lifted lol http://www.koreaboo.com/news/condom-stock-prices-rise-legalization-adultery-south-korea/
 
Tina, that story you posted sound scary ... very unfortunate of him to take that chance but it's a good lesson for all the men out there -- never do this behind your wife's back

 

[Maya_Fantasy]

LMAO @ the farting comments :lmao3:
 
I think those that want to die together is jealous of those that still alive because they can't trust their spouse or significant others to be without them.  My aunt late husband was such a player when he was alive, he cheated on her with so many women, even has kid with one, but when he was closed to dying, he didn't want my aunt to have anything to do with other men or think of remarrying.
 
The Korea news lol :loool: that is just stupid.  People will cheat no matter what, and some won't and will never cheat, within Laws or not.  Just because the banned was lift, it does not mean that they will get it on like rabbit,  so why would anyone think they will get some to go out and buy so many condoms? hahahahaha

 

[sarN]

Wouldn't it expire if not use ? Guys would cheat if the opportunity is available and the girl is willing. My tattoos artist , Pat , this dude have a baby momma , a girlfriend & one night stand w/ any girl thats willing and most of them is his client. He come to work w/ different girls all the time and it crazy how those girl fall for him & he good looking & young too . There were time when his girls fight each other at the shop haha I have to kick all three of them outside . And his baby momma still take him back, knowing full well he will cheat again and again. It just sad . He a very talent tattoo artist and have over 20k followers on IG but a player to the bone. He try to hit on me all the time but I draw the line bwt boss & employees and I would tell him I disliked short man plus I do not like guys that do drug & cheat

 

[Maya_Fantasy]

For whomever is looking for Mr or Mrs right, should read this first, and stop thinking only of yourself! :whahuh: lol.
 
http://marriage.viraltales.com/recently-married-man-just-realized-marriage-not-read-wrote#

 

[cecilia]

^I read that blog entry awhile back but it felt refreshing to read it again .. thank you for the reminder :wub:
 
I disagree on the part that love is about loving someone else and putting them first. I think love is putting their love and your love together. It takes two to make it work so if one can only give, surely the sugar will run out so it's better to have both pour and shower their love to one another at the same time.  Hmm .. sounds like I'm going back in circle lol -- nvm. I see where the blog entree is coming from now. He wants both to have this kind of mindset .. so if both do this, the relationship will blossom. Make senses lol

 

[cecilia]

I came across a favorite phrase of mine from a fanmade mv of 'HEALER'
 
The conversation went:
 
Guy: I can hurt you
Girl: No, you will not hurt me
 
Anyway, this dawned on me that those who say 'I can't hurt you' actually is the one who hurt you and those that say 'I can hurt you' end up to be the one not hurting you (or maybe this is just me seeing the romantic side to this whole small conversation lol)  So, what do you think? Do you see the same way as I did too?