u know, i think i've been to spicy like twice or three times (ever), but i don't really remember. maybe about a year ago, i got into a huge thing with someone here at sw about spicy. it was a thread similar to this where a member was pissed about their treatment. hahaha
oh wait, is this the thread?? i think so. LMAO!!!! oh well.
k, at that time, i didn't know what spicy was. i just responded to this posting thinking i could get the person to turn their frown upside down by justifying a different perspective...or laugh and feel better, or something. but apparently there were a lot of angry members from spicy who just did not want to hear any jokes. so basically, i shouldn't have even gotten involved.
anyways, i was joking, being stupid like how i normally am here. then someone came out of nowhere and started slammin' (attacking) me. i think it happened because an admin from spicy kindly greeted me. coincidentally, the admin from spicy was a frequent member on sw also (which is where i met her). we go way back...on SARNWORLD. well, things escalated out of control because the person assumed i was...honestly, i didn't even know what they were thinking. but they were really pissed at me. LOL and i was pissed too because i was being accused of all sorts of things that i didn't do. the person assumed all sorts of stuff about me...then other people started to attack me too! DUDE!!
after arguing back and forth in that one thread, i just decided to stop. cuz it was all for nothing. the situation had nothing to do with me, and i realized i put myself in there. i should have just ignored the stuff and let them think whatever they wanna think.
sw is the only forum that i visit. but my point is that the internet will always be jacked up. there's a whole lot of room for misinterpretations and misunderstandings when u can't really hear how a person speaks their words as it is typed out in a thread. the same sentence can be read in so many different ways. for example, i joke around with my friends all the time with things like "what's going on, bitch?" or "you are so not welcomed here, whore!", etc...HAHAHA. when it is typed, it can come out really wrong. LOL
moreover, yes, spicy plays rough but if you think about it, things can get rough anywhere. i know i joke around too much sometimes, only because i like to make people laugh. some people know i'm joking, and some people don't. for the people who don't know i'm joking, i always feel bad when they get hurt or feel threatened by me. but as time passes, i learn to calm the f down.
just think back on times where u typed something online, then someone misunderstood how u wanted it to sound. it's really awful, then u have no choice but to go on defensive mode. if that's never happened to you before, just keep in mind that it can happen.
i'm really sorry you felt disrespected. i actually don't have any real advice for dealing with people online, but always remember that smiley icons tend to change how a post or message comes out. imma try to use those little suckers as much as possible too. hahahaha
SMILE, YOU'RE ON CANDID CAMERA!!
EDIT: i just checked. it wasn't this thread. that thread was locked, i think. LMAO