I was talking to Nda the other day, how we both personally don't really feel r-scene shown in many lakorns because sometimes that scene doesn't really make sense and it seemed to me as a viewer that most pra'eks were just doing it mainly for lust. love might be the second or third reason. sometimes, the love is not even there! it looked "unattractive and cheap". once in a while I would think this act is sooo wrong and it's just a heinous crime against women. perhaps, the director/writer/actor may originally intended for it to show how much passionate love the pra'eks have for their nang'eks. But most of time, personally I think they fail to translate that into acting due to various reasons - unsuitable voice tone with the feelings the actors try to portray, no or not much conviction/too much conviction in performance, dull expressions, and the eyes looked "dead" - i tend to compare actors to public speakers because both require almost similar criteria. and the nang'ek seems to be too acceptive of what deed committed by the pra'ek. In some lakorns, the nang'ek were not willing at all but everything seemed forgiven later. What bothers me was, after the pra'ek has successfully "took advantage" of the nang'ek, he plays with her emotions like making her jealous when she doesn't give in or follow what he wants(usually for silly matters).
But in Koogum 2013, I totally get it why Kobori did what he did. Kobori is a respectful man, especially towards women. after watching few previous episodes, he treats ang's mom, grandma and aunties in village like a gentleman that he is. And we all know, he loves his mother so much and misses her like crazy to the point when he was attacked in ang's orchard, he dreamt about his mother. I imagined that Kobori, when he was child, he stuck to his mother like glue. Follow her everywhere she goes. when he sees her, he immediately glows. he watches her putting make up and dress. that might explains he knows how take off a woman's kimono, her head piece and cleans her face from make up (what he did for ang on their wedding night :drools: ) When he was sober, his moral obligation keeps reminding him of his promise to her; even when they are married, he would not touch her without her consent
I think being married to Ang was his salvation. He felt there was a very small hope for him to win her heart. I think he senses that Ang also
have feelings for him but he dares not to hope too muchWe all saw how he suspected that Ang was hiding something that might contradicts with his responsibility for his country. He keeps on drinking alcohol, thinking it might help him forget. But when the villagers pulled ang so that they can have their first dance as husband and wide, it was clearly shown in his eyes and smile thinking he may have a special moment with his wife. But ang just left him there, in front of the villagers. It was not shame that he felt, but more of being heartbroken. So, he resorts to alcohol..
After so loooooong he bottled up his love and passion for ang and keeping to himself all the ill-treatments ang gave her, he finally gave in to his desire and become honest with how he really feels for her, without feeling any obligation to keep his promise when he became drunk. I think he resorted to use force with ang because she is legally "his". Making love to her was exclusive, it is his right as her husband. He has never mistreated her (except for that time when he kissed on dock and she scratched him even though in actual reality ang was not that unwilling!). He has always respected her and her family. And he loves both of her strengths and weaknesses. Plus, somewhere deep in his heart, he knows she has feelings for him.
i got to stop writing for now. need to go and rewatch more previous episodes of Koogum 2013.