Personality reflects the Appearance?

[Quiet-ness]

We had a discussion in the chatroom about this, but we never did finish it. Plus, other things were happening that were distracting. So here we go again:

I believe that a person's personality is reflected on their appearance. Some have already disagreed with me on this in the chatroom. I would like them to explain themselves in here so I can understand your view better. Someone said that they have some friends who doctors that are nose-pierced. Outside their professional job, they put the nose ring back on. Would anyone would have guessed that they were doctors? I really don't see how this is relevant to how the personality reflects appearance when they are dressed for their professional work. I mean you would have to dress that kind of way to show your professionalism. On a different note, who would want someone with a nose ring to do surgery on them? The nose ring doesn't really say much about the personality anyways. I have earrings, does that show my kindness, social ability, what kind of attitude I have, etc...? It just means I like to wear jewelery.

When it comes to dating or courtship, the first impression often is our appearance, however, not always. Lets say there is a thugish person. What are the chances that he would approach someone who dresses in American Eagle for dating? The chances are highly unlikely, but it's impossible. Would you say that you would want someone who shares that common ground like yours even in personality?

If someone who dresses preppy come up to you and you are a punk rock kind of type, does the way s/he dresses say something about herself? Perhaps s/he likes classical music, talks quietly and proper, clean, and gullible? What about the punk rock kind of type? Perhaps s/he likes to be loud, curses, talkative, and dirty? Would these two people be compatible with one another? I really don't think so, so therefore would it be okay to reject him/her anyways because of the way s/he dress?

 

[Wai Wai Noodles]

I was wandering aimlessly and stumbled upon your interesting topic

LOL...let me take stab at it.

Our personality doesnt ALWAYS have to reflect upon our appearance.

Lets say IF we were to perform a simple study / experiment :

Choosing variables such as age and gender.

Dressing a psychopathic killer and a business man in similar attire.

IF, they were to not speak or display any behavior, would you be able to tell which is the killer between the two?

I dont think so, therefore, our superficiality cant be used to determine our personality in all cases.

However, personality can influence on how we express ourselves in various ways that defines our uniqueness as a person.

First, you said "...a person's personality is reflected on their appearance" and the last paragraph you talked about the different types of how people dresses / act / compatibility with those who differs from us.

I believe you've just contradicted yourself there.

To answer that last question whether to reject someone because of how they dress :

Your ideas are preconceived by generalizations / stereotypes of how you think individuals who dresses in each ways / styles "should" behave.

Yes, it's true that the first thing we see about anyone are physical attributes, then maybe personality if we get to know them well enough.

I dont know by which standard makes it OK to reject them because of superficial differences and opposite does / can attract sometimes...

We need to open our minds to the world of differences and not let superficial factors serve as a veil to blind of what lies beneath skin deep ^_^

 

[noungning]

from reading, you are saying people dress to represent their personality?

i love to joke around but sometimes i'm dead serious, so i would have a half clown suit on and the other half being a business suit because those are ppl taken serious?

it's true, professional dress to impress when they are at work then go home and dress however they'd find matches their liking. but i don't think a person dresses to reflect their personality.

and in fact, i know a person who dresses alternative/gothic and she just does it because she likes the look and listens to the music, but is she gothic/psychotic/emotionally disturbed? i highly doubt it. and in fact, she's not loud and a curser haha

and have you never heard of opposites attract? i live in a neighbor hood where thuggish guys dates A&F chicks.

maybe you haven't been exposed to diverse perspectives, leading to think that it's that way?

is it okay to judge someone from how they look and dis them? i don't think it's okay...but i guess i can't stop people from thinking. when you are with someone, are u seriously with them for what they wear or who they really are? if you are going to assume, he dresses too preppy, he must not be my type then go for it, but you will have to keep on searching for your "type" by the way they dress. and good luck.

 

[dynomite]

Wow... I don't know where to stand. Cause for a guy... we will not date an ugly girl. That's superficial. right?

Now don't get sensitive on me ladies. Ugly to one person is beautiful to another. I was telling Quietness that there is always a match for everyone.

So if Quietness doesn't want to date based on their appearance... I guess to each their own.

But if you want to know where your loved one is...

yo no se... enjoy the single life.

relationships can be A lot of work

Someone just send me a sugar mommy.

Any takers?

 

[jensen]

I will be a lil bit off topic, sorry lol

personality reflectin the appearance/appearance reflecting the personality? What does it mean? that by the appearance u can know how people are? and if for example, u judge that good personality goes with the good appearance? do all people with bad personality are apparently ugly?lol and do all people we (and it's subjective) find beautiful/handsome etc, have all a good personality?

We can't categorize people. What u do, reflects who you are, but how you look cannot.

The only way to know how people are, is getting to know them deeply, and not make ur own opinion on what you hear or see, cos what u see is not always what it really is.

I agree with Wai Wai and Ning, u girls said the right words.

We can't judge people on their appearance or as the quote 'not judging a book by it cover' or somethin like that lol.

I'm repeating what Ning said, that we can't stop people judging, sad but it's life. There are people who have their own values, their own principles or whatever, to live their life and they base on these criterion to judge others. When they are different from them or what they think ppl should be, they criticize u, they judge u. The difference scares some people.

So there are people who live their life according to what ppl will say or think of their behaviour, to be socially 'appreciated', so much pressure lol and they are still unhappy.

That's the case for people dressing not very conventional and conform, and their boss ask them to wear a costume, to shave, etc... It's just cos we live in a society where the appearance is the main thing ppl use to judge u, at the first sight. So some ppl cannot do what they really want, but the doctor who have a nose ring, doesn't mean they are not good in their work.

Dynonite : hmm true...Some guys would choose to go out with a girl who is physically beautiful and i agree that the beauty is totally subjective, cos someone can be beautiful to u but ugly to others, just a question of taste.

If the beautiful girl you choose is also beautiful inside, it's ok lol, but if it's a real devil sleeping inside of her, haha all i could say is, Good luck.

But i don't think that the appearance should guide us in our choices, cos it's superficial and doesn't last. What would u prefer? to marry a young and beautiful woman but with a tiny bean in her head or another one, hmm maybe not beautiful for u, but with a good personality, very nice etc?lol

cos if u choose a girl just for how she is physically, u will be very tired all ur life, cos u will have to change ur girl everytime for a new one, more young and beautiful, when ur current one becomes ugly and old...lol

omg, i speak too much lol, it's maybe due to my old age hahaha

 

[Thookatha]

like wai wai said, there is a contradition between ur beginning and ending statement. but that's another factor i can discuss later...since a few people touched up on that already. what i'd like to mention is the beginning statement, in itself. you have a hidden contradiction in there. this is crucial for your inquiries...

your statement is as follows:

Someone said that they have some friends who doctors that are nose-pierced. Outside their professional job, they put the nose ring back on. Would anyone would have guessed that they were doctors? I really don't see how this is relevant to how the personality reflects appearance when they are dressed for their professional work. I mean you would have to dress that kind of way to show your professionalism.

this actually IS contradicting to your theory in that, professional or not professional, would you even expect them to pursue such a field in the first place...that, being the medical field in this case? i mean, if you were to base it off of their appearance and on the way that they were or are dressed? before they even enter their field, they will have already had a preset "style" which isolates them from the influences of profession. the profession is only a technicality that does not reflect who they are and how they entered their field.

i believe, the example that was brought up was piercings. it is highly doubtful that these particular doctors would have picked up on the trends of "excess piercings" in the medical field. it is most likely and almost definitely an outside factor. the point is that profession has a weak support in sustaining the ties of personality to appearance. it will only play a role in ascertaining how one MUST dress on a daily basis...but it still does not verify our mentality or personality in accordance to our appearance. i'm not saying that it is not important. all of im saying is that you've irrelevantly applied it to your argument. cuz what you are reinstating sounds like an insult to certain people's capabilities.

this goes along the same way as other professions also...not that it will be the only factor in your theory. but since we have brought up profession as a key example in justifying certain thoughts and ideals, i am just asserting this notion myself.

 

[dynomite]

My philosophy on LOVE entails two parts.

The internal expectations and the external expectations.

The external expectations contain the 3 C's.

But that's a book of its own. 555 It's too complicated!

However... looks are an important factor.

To say it is not is ridiculous. You girls want to test men and have them know your inside before they meet your outside. 555 That's too funny.

That's not how it works. The insides are very important, but those things you mentioned require time and a lot research.

It does not mean the insides are thrown to the way side. As you date,you see the inside and then you know .. time to continue or time to quit.

Which then leads to Marduk and others discussion about the divorce and love.

End it as fast as possible. Those who test and drag things along to see if they pass are wasting time and fooling themselves.

All this smoke and fumes for what? The longer you try to fool someone the longer, but eventual break up will occur.

Hence why, you examine the outside first.

I need to see my girl and all her beauty before I dedicate time to pick her brain and see if she has what it takes to survive a relationship wtih me.

Why on EARTH would I invest time, pretend I like a girl and then see her in real life and find out she's a monster.

She snores at night, has smelly breath, with a mole on her nose with the most toxic methane rich fart this side of Tim-buk-too.

UMMmmm. HHHEEEELLLLL nNOOO

Men were built to examine the curves and sizes of the body and the face and the legs.

This might sound very barbaric and un-intellectual animal like nature, but it's built that way for a reason. You cannot change what mother nature gave us.

porn, sex magazines, etc... are part of being male.

How did I learn this...? Itz funny how while asia is more conservative, sex is not. Guys in Asia watch porn, japanese porn and their girlfriends are okay with it. Well... I should say a bigger portion or maybe I see different guys or you don't know them well enough. Commercials are not censored for condoms or sexual intense ads in comparison to the states.

It isn't until girls grow up that there thinking changes and learn from what's real or not.

We all do it, honestly. Some learn the hard way others the easy way. Can apply to sex only after marriage, sex only after being 40 (my mom's rule for my sister), or drugs (alcohol, pot, ectasy, coke, heroin, vicodin, etc).

If you don't think you have what men are looking for and hence resored to the net... that's fine. I wish you luck, but just remember that whe you meet some grotesque guy who never cleans himself, but has the heart of an angel.

I say don't worry... let the one seeking you determine what you have and don't have.

Don't be insecure and don't hide behind the internet. :^P

Peace Love and Happiness!

 

[Thookatha]

um dyno, dear? was ur post meant for my thread...or did u really mean to post this in here on purpose. i mean, it is effective in here too, ironically...minus the whole schpeel about marduk and the divorced thing..but i'm just wondering. LOL

 

[dynomite]

Itz two in one combina-cion.

I knew you guys would read them both. :^P

I say combine the two damn topics. 5555

 

[none3]

Wow, very intersting. I feel like I've just came out of a seminar class.

Here's my say for this topic:

Unfortunatley we live in a society (USA) that taught us to be judgemental and sterotypical. We learn it everyday, since the day we were born until now. We learn it from home, school, work, our friends etc.

Well, now that we recognize the issues and fact, what are we going to do about it? How do we change our perpective and accept that everyone is different?

Now, it is a matter adjusting ourselves to the situation. Most of us aren't willing to change to fit the needs of other. And that is a FACT.

 

[Anonymity]

it's true, professional dress to impress when they are at work then go home and dress however they'd find matches their liking. but i don't think a person dresses to reflect their personality.

i agreed with ning!

me as an example i use to dress up "professional" while im in school because of the uniform attired, but now that we finally changed the uniform system im starting to wear what im normally wear. people say i dress like a punk but i would never label myself on what i wear. i just feel comfortable dressing like that. yeah i listening to punk rock, alternative, emo, and so on. but i also open up to other type of music (yeah big bang baby!!) too. lolss. i just have to say that. but yeah anyway. am i making any sense at all?? because im like confusing myself atm so imma shut up and leave before i confused myself even more. :blink: h34r:

 

[rukmos]

Human nature is very complex and the way a person dresses reflects his/her personality, but very little about it. In order to know a person's personality, you have to spend time with them and get to know them one on one. So yes the way a person dress tells a person how they are, but only to a certain extent. Let's not forget important things like mood swings, a person's past, world views, personal views, and all those other un-named factors that adds to a person's attitude.

 

[noungning]

okay answering dyno's post:

dyno dear... we are talking about attire here not necessarily physical appearance i.e pretty/ugly/skinny/fat

from what quietness asked, she basically is saying since people in japan dress like a stuffed teddy bear on the streets, they are like a doll?

since george bush dresses in a suit, he is trust worthy and someone we can rely our lives upon.

I KNOW males looks for sex appeal, everyone does, not just males, we check out guys that's hott while all others are just blah.

but when it goes beyond that, you learn of everything positive they are, you tend to overlook the minor negatives, but of course the positive has to out weight the negative in order to make it work.

but coming back to this topic, i still think that you can't judge a person by the way they dress, and we aren't talking about HYGIENE here, so it has nothing to do with being clean! [and who the hell can stand a dirty bastard? personally i can't!]

 

[dynomite]

So you mean to tell me I wasted $$$ cold hard cash on my stupid shoes when I went on a date because they said girls can tell alot about a person by his shoes.

DAMMIT NING! :^P

 

[noungning]

omg yeah... dyno u're too easily persuaded.

the shoes doesn't matter, it's the flowers u bring, the money you pay for the date, and what else you buy her muahahah!!!

and okay nice shoes might land you a job because it fits the attire they prefer. other than that, it doesn't mean a girl will say yes to you because u have nice shoes, unless they can take it and sell it on ebay in a heartbeat lmao

 

[dynomite]

In the end madam quietness---> you are not wrong... the point of discussion is being aware of the fine line we draw on our assessments.

Clothes can tell you a lot about a person, but it could also tell you that you are wrong.

For example... when I look at a girl... I look at the colors she wears. If she likes dark colors, I tend to have warnings flash before my eyes. You know the gothic look... yeah totally tells me to becareful. Could I be wrong... of course and that was my point initially, to make you be aware.

You said you dont picture a prep or a gangster hitting on you, but who knows. It's a matter of context of how you meet.

For example, when a girl wears a prada bag, louis vitton wallet and carries her self with sophistication and also drives a BMV 325i... I start to get scared.

Maybe some are intimidated by a girl who has all this, but for me... it just means danger. Of course if its fake that's fine, but when it's real.

It shows me she has no sense of value of a dollar, it tells me she has been spoiled and that's she's daddy's little girl.

So can appearance tell you a lot? Sure... I love psycho-analyzing things.

And I love trying to see and guess how you guys are in real life. buwwhahahaa.... and i wonder how my image is portrayed here reflects my actual personality in real life.

The things that make you go hummm........

I tell ya... this place is great.

Now I'm going to go hibernate for a year if I don't get back to my studies.

 

[triANGgo]

p'Dyno...u should totally get ban for double posting..haahha kidding kidding

so does that mean u wont approach me if i start wearing black and look like a Goth? ur mean :loool: :arrg:

 

[noungning]

i know huh! i wear alot of black...

ppl are just hating!

 

[dynomite]

Where did I double post? I'm assuming on some other pages, and its not me... damn internet or something I pressed it only once. But whatever! Its not all the itme... give me mod powers and I'll clean them up. :^P

And hey I'm not hating! I said warning signals that's it.

And Lek... you dumped me for p'Wan and Kevin. 555

So don't even!

 

[noungning]

yeah u have to thank me for cleaning up your double posts :angry: